| ||Ask HN: Getting harassed at work for my sexuality, what should i do?|
48 points by yahyaheee on Apr 10, 2016 | hide | past | favorite | 38 comments |
|Hey, I have found myself in a bit of a bind at my job over the last several months. A little backstory, I am a bisexual man in a relationship with a woman. I'm not sure how it happened for me this way, but it did, and I am honest about who I am with those that are close to me. So, here is my current situation:|
I started working at a part of Oracle back in September, and over the next several months my coworkers one aisle over from me have begun talking about my sexuality in a very demeaning manner. They are I guess 'whispering', but I can clearly hear them talking about whether I am gay or not on a close to daily basis. This is also followed up with jokes about how I 'think' I'm Bi, and how thats a bunch of bullshit. I work in an area where I am one of the only engineers and am surrounded by a bunch of what I would call Prep School types.
I have tried to ignore it, and brush it off, but it gets in my head and makes me really upset. Which is then in turn misinterpreted as me having a 'bad attitude'. I have opened up to several other people at work about it and they have suggested going to HR. I have never really been the type to go to teacher, but I feel like I'm kind of out of options here. I also worry about the possible repercussions of it.
I guess I am wondering if anyone has been in a similar boat? And perhaps has some advice to share? Thanks
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