I'm slightly more interested in further down the road. I know HNs user base might be skewed to the younger crowd but I'm sure there are a number of 40+ year olds who can impart their wisdom.
People who practice a lot usually do so because they’re interested in it. It’s not hard or homework for them. If there’s a gift, it’s the gift of interest.
Artists copy a lot. They don’t come up with stuff clear out of their heads. They look at a lot of things, keep a lot of references, and blend ideas together.
Most people who are famous are so not because they’re good, but because they’ve worked hard to become famous. It was important to them, so they did what it took to become famous. Being good at something is a small part of that, small enough that famous people aren’t usually all that good. Their time was better spent becoming famous. (This is the biggest lesson from this list. It basically implies that you can ignore people who have blogs and podcasts. Seek out the unknown experts in your field.)
Don’t make decisions based on money. Don’t stay at a job because the shares might be worth something, or because the company might get acquired. These things rarely happen and you can’t get your time back.
Everyone is totally winging it all the time. Confident people are just better at hiding it.
I don't think people really understand how true this is. I think we all might feel it, but to really believe that [insert name] doesn't really know what is going on is a revelation.
To wit, whenever given the opportunity to talk with someone who is or was in a large powerful role (Fmr Undersecretary of the Navy two weeks ago for example) I always ask them how confident they were, that what they were doing was the right choice, or how much they felt in control of a particular action/decision.
Across the board they all say they feel like they have very little control and are just doing the best with what they have.
I think your advice is most valuable to people who constantly underestimate themselves. I've worked around extremely capable people who do this, and it's frustrating to see how little they achieve because of it.
Contrast that against current xkcd: https://xkcd.com/1471/
And it doesn't stop there. He's done amazing things that stretch the concept of "web comic", like https://xkcd.com/1446/ or arguably his most famous work https://xkcd.com/1190/ "Time"
The author's growing experience and confidence allowed him to pull off ambitious and genuinely imperative things like "Time", which improved the mean comic, but the median never really recovered.
A recent one - http://www.penny-arcade.com/comic/2015/02/16/attempted-recid...
I remember commenting on a different artist's rework of his old comic strip, about how the new strips looked too busy and that there was something beautiful and thematic about his earlier work. He replied that he also preferred his earlier work, but he just couldn't make himself 'stop that early' when drawing anymore.
Certainly in both cases there's a lot more skill in the later work, but it's interesting to note that overdevelopment is also a thing.
The cartoon faces were more expressive with less detail than the current ones, but he was able to draw just about anything he wanted in a funny way, which wasn't the case in the beginning.
So skyscrapers and jumbo jets are built on guesswork, despite all the things that can go wrong in their design and construction?
I wish people would be more precise about what is meant by this, since it seems trivially false when taken literally.
If some element of guesswork wasn't involved, we wouldn't need massive safety factors, because we'd know exactly how strong and stiff to make things. If engineers could be trusted to avoid disaster purely through their own skill and expertise, then we wouldn't need building codes and inspections, we wouldn't need FAA regulations and the NTSB.
If 99% of the job is applying well-understood techniques to well-trod problems you have an intimate domain understanding of, and 1% is judgment calls you can't rigorously justify, that's not "winging it".
What I think is going on is that people think back to their work, only remember the 1%, and then casually conclude that "aw, heck, the whole thing is just judgment calls", which doesn't follow at all.
Many projects crucially depend on someone having that deep understanding, and their success proves that at least one person (and probably a lot more) aren't winging it. If people would just operationalize what this nugget of wisdom is supposed to mean, I think we'd find a lot more disagreement on what it means, or a much less surprising insight.
"Structural engineering is the art of molding materials we don't wholly understand, into shapes we can't fully analyze, so as to withstand forces we can't really assess, in such a way that the community at large has no reason to suspect the extent of our ignorance."
If the New York City skyline is "just winging it", then it should no longer be reassuring to tell someone that "lol don worry we're winging it too".
At times, information technology entrepreneurship
seems to believe that no such thing is possible.
I'm sure there's lots of places in skyscrapers and jumbo jets that the engineers in charge feel at least somewhat ashamed for, and are only there because they needed to "ship" and it was empirically shown to be "good enough" for practical purposes .. and then every once in a blue moon a plane crashes.
Similarly to how debuggers help us beat code into doing something "good enough" for practical purposes, but no one really understands what the code does anymore .. and then every once in a blue moon there's something like heartbleed.
Striving for perfection in a market context only sets you up for pain - since stakeholders rarely care about quality, they care about more money and less headaches now, consequences be damned. So everyone is just winging it.
eg. When do you make the decision that it is the right time to build this kind of skyscraper or jumbo jet with this compliment of people etc...
If there are a hundred non-obvious caveats, which people may even disagree on ... maybe it's not actually so wise?
At the very least, those who promote this claim should verify they're not confusing "use gut instinct when you have to make a judgement call" with "the entirety of coding, including iterating 1 to 100, is a judgement call".
Fully agree with this. But it seems not easy to find hidden gems. It takes time and energy to deliver what's in one's mind. Take this into account, what we can find is only a fraction of the real gems with lots of noises mixed with them. The best shot I can think of is to have some kind of small circle to exchange ideas and opinions. Another resource is reading books, I guess.
As for famous people's wisdom, they have way more access to information average people don't have. And the average quality is probably better. Just like what the artists do you mentioned, they do the same with information.
Yup. Very glad to hear that you want the
Finding them is
a nutshell description of the
purpose of my startup.
Thanks for the wording!
Absolutely. I've gotten high quality information from books. Sometimes it seems you gotta pay through the nose... but when you look at it, many of these books are refined down from the person's life in the field. That is pretty cool!
Very true. And even when it's not 100% true, we're better off pretending that it is. If you think you can learn something, you're much better off than if you think you can't. The latter attitude is self-fulfilling.
If you hate something, and you have to force yourself to do it, I wouldn't bother, and I'd look for something else to do.
That, and our whole system of fractional reserve banking is deeply flawed and is killing us, to the benefit of a greedy few.
I turned 40 in the year 2005, but my life experience was someone different than my father who turned 40 in the year 1982, and I suspect that if someone was 20 today that their life experience looking back will be a bit different in the year 2035.
Yes I can give you all of the cliches from "enjoy your hair while you have it" to "i wish i put aside more in my IRA". But aside from that the lessons in your life could be different than mine.
For my father's generation (the silent generation) the path to success was a steady union job or say becoming a professional like a lawyer. However for my generation (gen x) union jobs didn't exist and many of my friends who became lawyers are doing quite badly.
So I would say that to take the advice of anyone over 40 with a grain of salt as your results may not be the same. Common assumptions of the path of success of today could be badly placed bets.
For example even though I was a hardcore Apple fanboy if you told me to load up on Apple stock in 1996 I would have thought that you were crazy. Also if you told me in the 80s that Japan would face a lost decade in the 90s followed by being in the shadow of China i would have thought that you were crazy.
I wish I could up vote this more than once. the past two decades have taught us that there is no such thing as a safe job or a risk free investment
This conclusion is what has driven me to just jump in head first to doing my own thing. I think a lot of people are searching for something "stable" and I'm not sure that really exists anymore if it ever really did.
2. Find something useful to do with your commute (e.g audio books) or eliminate it. This could be a large part of your life and it adds up.
3. Marry the right person. Don't marry too young.
4. Fix your chronic health problems.
5. Understand and study nutrition.
6. Build relationships. This takes time.
7. Make things happen. Create things that weren't there before that other people participate in. Practice planning things in advance and executing on them.
8. Learn what you can from your parents before they go senile.
9. Have some sort of passion besides your job and passive entertainment. You will become a far more interesting person and attract interesting people.
10. Do not undercharge for your labor. Live well below your means. Don't work for or with jerks.
11. If something isn't working in your life, change something, measure and retry. Iterate. This is basically applying lean principals to everything. Don't get stuck with "good enough" and then it's a year later.
While following this advice might make an individual happier, if most people followed it, we'd gradually become slaves to the ruling class which would happily exploit us without us noticing or willing to do anything about it.
I avoid a lot of mass media (e.g TV) because if I absorb and process the same information everyone else does I'll think thoughts that are similar to everyone else. I guess that's good and bad. It's helpful to at least be aware of what everyone else is thinking.
Thank goodness that never happened!
Read Marshall MacLuhan and Vance Packard. Yes, they are dated and the words are musty. The reason not to watch a lot of news has more to do with the effects of that sort of media on your nervous system than what anybody intends by it. You sort of can't just unplug, but know the game and realize you're in it. Have a diet of long-form works to balance out the blurb feeds.
- In arguments being right isn't as important as being happy.
- Be nice, especially to people who can't do anything for you.
- Be grateful.
- Figure out what you want in this life and go for it, it's the only one you get.
- Do as much for your body as you do for your mind (i.e. workout, eat well).
- Learn to manage money.
- Stop doing stupid shit (you know what I'm talking about).
- Make decisions using the regret minimization framework. What would you regret NOT doing the most? Do that.
- Invest in yourself. You can lose everything, but you'll always have this.
- Don't watch the news.
- Don't be an asshole.
- Do be happy, you deserve it.
It's ok, we're works in progress.
The "works in progress" is a very good point to make.
It's not a bad question to ask for considering different angles, but I disagree that it should have much influence. It discourages risk-taking.
I know it's a popular meme but when people say they have no regrets, I think to myself that either 1) They are bullsh-g me (usually the case), 2) they are bullsh-g themselves, often by closing their eyes to what they missed on, and/or 3) they aren't taking enough risks.
Regret and pain are part of life. It's a fantasy, and emotionally immature, to think you will avoid them or that you have.
"May your reach exceed your grasp."
If you take a risk and it doesn't work out, you can still have no regrets because (a) it was the right thing to with the available information at the time; (b) you learnt something valuable from the experience.
Minimizing regrets to me means taking risks. It's why I joined the Marine Corps. It's why I bought my first house at 21. It's why I got married. It's why I started investing in real estate. It's why I quit my job to start a company.
If I didn't work to minimize my regrets I'd have a very dull life. Do I use it to decide whether I want Chinese or Italian? No, but when I have a major decision and I'm having a hard time deciding I give it a spin.
I'm not saying you shouldn't take risks. I just have no idea how you can come up with rule or guideline that has any basis in reality. There are tons of people who took some risk and are living with the negative repercussions but we rarely like hearing about them.
If you struggle with how to use regret minimization I'd say just see the rule above it: "Stop doing stupid shit." Your examples of "catching aids and dying, falling off the cliff, getting in racing accident, going bankrupt" mostly fall under doing stupid shit with the possible exception of going bankrupt, which could be due to bad luck (but is most often a result of doing stupid shit.)
People get in over their heads because they risk more than they're willing to lose and fail to think long-term, which is stupid shit. And often it's not just one bad decision, but a series of bad decisions that lead to catastrophic outcomes. I became a millionaire in my 20's by taking risks, but I never risked more than I was willing to lose--financially or in my marriage.
There's not a rule or decision framework for everything, at some point it comes down to common sense and judgement(which can be improved through learning). And even with our best efforts we'll make mistakes, which is expected. But it's ok to make a thousand small mistakes, you just have to avoid the big ones...like catching aids and dying, falling off the cliff, getting in racing accident...
It's not a recipe, it's a rough trajectory: some assembly (thought) required.
People can also regret not having taken a risk - so it works both ways.
But I think "regret minization" is more than just avoiding negative consequences. It's about not regreting a decision even if things go wrong - it's about being able to say "I'd do it again".
Have you ever read a news article about a subject in your field that you knew a lot about? Think about it. Remember how everything was a little bit off or a little misleading or misinformed or focused on the wrong thing? That's the case with every news article, ever, we just don't think about it most of the time.
For anything really important you'll find out about it quickly enough. Someone you know will tell you or you'll overhear something. Trying to search for important information by reading or watching news reports feels good because it satisfies our instincts to hunt and search and collect. But it's not a good use of our energy 99% of the time.
HN is a bit "meta". Here we search not for useful or important news articles, but for insightful, intelligent comments from people who actually understand what is going on. The 99% rule still applies, but at least when we find a comment like that here it is more likely to be well-informed and something we wouldn't find elsewhere.
I can't think of too much I wish I had known, but there are quite a few things I wish I had fully internalized:
- the math behind financial freedom and how small differences in savings rate, burn rates, and the carrying cost of owning "stuff" can greatly impact one's chances of reaching it;
- the almost unbelievable opportunity and money costs of having children (I thought I knew.... but I was off by orders of magnitude);
- that compounding growth (in any aspect of one's life, not just investing) only matters if you give it time. Start today with a little instead of waiting for the day you have "enough" to start;
- the importance of due diligence. I spent more time and care speccing out my personal computers than I did buying my home. Then compounded my error by hanging on to it long after I should have cut my losses;
- that if you are not working towards a specific destination, you're just floating where the wind and tide take you and hoping you end up somewhere good;
- the importance of caring for your body, listening and acting on its complaints rather than pushing yourself harder;
- that where you end up is mostly (aside from a certain element of sheer chance) the result of the choices YOU make (or allow others to make on your behalf) in life;
- to seek out relationships with the kind of people you wish you were. You grow to be more like the people you have around you;
- to learn from the past, and then let go of it. You need to focus on the future. It's especially important to let go of cynicism and bitterness as they poison your future and hurt everyone else around you;
- to take the long view when weighing your options and making your plans;
- that willpower is severely limited. I wish I had done more to make the right choices the easiest/default ones. Examples include automated savings, only keeping healthy foods in the house, building exercise habits into my daily routine, etc.;
This. Past is past, it cannot be changed, put your efforts where it matters. I would also add that revenge is overrated, do not waste time on it.
Yes! I found it way too easy to push way too
hard and, thus, do some serious damage.
One case took surgery and, then, years to
recover -- I'm back to normal now.
LOL, I can relate. Good one.
EDIT> This is for people with strong (non-kid) passions that are time-consuming. I know people who are just amazing with kids, but typically they don't seem to have much else going on in their lives.
The biggest problem I have with kids is that they sometimes fight over silly things. I forbade my kids from playing with each other. Since it was against the rules, they played with each other much better and when they fought they knew they were breaking the rules.
After watching Monster Inc. I realized that you could tickle kids instead of spanking them to get them to behave. No one likes to be tickled. I can imagine my kids being kicked out of therapy when they explain how they were disciplined by being made to laugh.
There are so many tricks that reduce the irritation to a minimum. For me, it was a challenge to find them so I really enjoyed it. I wish I could do it again. My oldest daughter is taking comp sci at stanford.
Saturday morning "I need help wiping..."
Starting your day sleep-deprived and having to wipe a toilet-trained person's ass is just degrading. Parenting in modern times -- basically degradation with eventual benefits.
My impression is that nobody, later in life, says they wished they spent less time with their kids.
I think it's just a strong taboo to say those things.
It's work, but it's incredibly rewarding and will continue to be for decades to come. No doubt you will miss out significantly on that, but in exchange you get a great deal of freedom so enjoy it.
I didn't think I wanted kids, was never one to want to hold babies and the like, but I have two and they have been an amazing experience. I'm very glad not to have missed that path.
What made you change your mind?
If you strip away any social context (your parents, your partner, your neighbors), would you still opt for kids? To me it looks like a lot of people are nagged on by friends and family before having kids and then taken a lot more seriously afterwards, get more liberties and less questions asked at work, etc. And then .. well then just get on the hype train themselves. Looking in from the outside, it does seem a bit caving into peer pressure at first and suffering from Stockholm Syndrom later.
I had no nagging from anyone and we were together for 8-9 years before having our first. We both have very supportive, model parents. I imagine that new parents with great parents of their own are keen to continue that legacy. I wonder if some with less-ideal parents couldn't see their chance as an opportunity to do better than their own experience?
I think any short term costs (time, money, opportunities) are won back in all the treasured experiences, and then everything from there with independent children is like interest being repaid (IT support in 2050, moving my furniture to the retirement facility, booking cruises, etc). ;)
It's a very special feeling to be loved and looked up to by other little humans. I treasure my kids 15 min at a time. That said, you can't turn them off without being a jerk or negligent.
It's just the relentlessness, and the extent to which boundaries between adults and children have been erased in our (Canadian & US) culture.
I'm not sure I understand. Is there more of a boundary in other countries? Is it the "helicopter mom"-ing ?
The truth is closer to the opposite direction. Parent,partner, neighbor nagging is the same as getting to the gym. You really didn't want to bother with it, but after you worked out it's the best decision you could have ever made.
I have had a number of great professional breakthroughs and nothing comes close to the sense of accomplishment of raising children.
I think the closest you get to tapping into those emotions outside of children is hearing that your father is dying. Picture that and ask yourself would you prefer $20k a year and a decade of Saturdays off as a trade?
Yes and a match with mine. It feels good to hear out of a maelstrom of contrary opinions one that finally matches your own.
The best to you and your family! Families soaked in positive experience will change the world only for better :D
2) Salaries for pure coders flatline around the age of 35, unless the entire industry's salary range goes up like it has over the last 5 years. There is a sweet spot of experience between 8-10 years, and companies don't value 20 years experience more than 10 years experience. The industry simply isn't the same 10-20 years ago as it is today. The only significant difference that I bring to the table over an 32 year old coder is that my code is probably incrementally more reliable and my manual testing abilities are probably incrementally better, but for the most part, the differences are intangible and definitely not enough to justify a salary increase.
3) Take care of your body. Age is not just a number. Practice good eating habits and do not gain weight because it becomes much harder to lose as you age. Your body goes through physical changes from your early 30s, and you are weaker. My memory is significantly worse now than it was 10 years ago, and often forget things that I've known for 10-20 years. My body is significantly weaker than it was even 5 years back.
4) Learning how to be personable and sociable will help accelerate and lengthen your career. No one wants to be around someone who is a technical genius but an asshole. They would rather hire someone who is very good, but great to work with.
5) Customers don't care about technology, they care about solutions. In the end, as long as you are solving customer problems, you are employable.
2) The red pill. I don't agree with everything what comes out of that cesspool of a community, but there is a lot of ugly truth in it as well.
3) Kids, job, sleep (and, therefore, happiness). Pick two in your twenties & thirties. However, if you pick the first two, sleep comes later. If you pick the last two, kids probably won't. The happiest people I know picked the outer two.
Examples of "ugly truths" on TRP? All I've seen there is trash and misogyny.
Of course, at that point, organized sports start up. But at least you are getting sleep again.
- The more vociferously people express their opinions about some external issue, the more likely it is that they're talking about themselves.
- Pay less attention to the news. If it's really important you'll hear about it anyway. Devote more of your mental attention to what you're really interested in.
- Quitting smoking starts to really pay off after about a year. After a few years, it feels outstanding.
I would like to think that we should be careful when and how to relay knowledge and advice (and not a statement about how you actually think!). Logic soundness is irrelevant if the listener can't absorb it, and as obvious as it is, even more irrelevant if it doesn't positively impact my life/his life/our relationship.
That's one of the things I love the most about online forums. If you're wrong, people will probably tell you. You learn it's far more useful to let go of barriers on your beliefs (I think we built them as a culture to avoid volatility of knowledge). You gain a lot of confidence if you're sincere to yourself about your beliefs (I think denying opposite opinions is a dishonesty to yourself).
> Pay less attention to the news. If it's really important you'll hear about it anyway. Devote more of your mental attention to what you're really interested in.
This varies a lot by occupation I guess. But this looks like very sound advice to me. For most news, you would "gain" a lot more per time reading a compressed delayed perspective. It really is important to judge how actionable each medium of news is.
This one is bitting me so much, I always thought my biggest challenge in my career would be something technical. Now I know better and am trying to improve my communication skills.
I'm the kind of guy that is usually right but the way I communicate things makes people hostile, feel bad or defensive. It was easy to see/admit this was hurting me, it hasn't been so easy to change it.
> - Quitting smoking starts to really pay off after about a year. After a few years, it feels outstanding.
It been 2 months now I stopped smoking, that is good to know.
(It's a bit like when you ask a smart physicist a silly question instead of telling you're wrong he'll make the most out of it)
From the E. Fromm, The Art of Loving
(say, love and its connections with
emotions, psychology, and religion),
and paraphrase: "For humans, the fundamental problem
in life is doing something effective about feeling
alone. Only four solutions have been found,
#1 love of spouse, #2 love of God, #3 membership in a group,
and #4 [not recommended]."
So you rediscovered #3! Darned good!
Live in the now.
You are not your job.
Don't take things personally.
Ask for what you want.
Would you rather be right, or loved?
Meditation got me there. I think people should seriously give it a shot. It's potentially lifechanging in very positive ways.
Life throws curveballs at you, and the more you stack responisiblity and ambition - the harder it is to live for your own ideals. Eventually your friends start getting married and getting ahead, and you begin wanting more for your own family than for yourself.
All I'm saying is that it's one thing to realize these values, yet another entirely to consistently uphold them throughout your adult life.
But, as gregd will attest, it is possible.
There is no suck thing as luck. There is opportunity and the people who take advantage of it.
A "lucky" person is just someone who takes advantage of the opportunities they make for themselves.
For example, when I see someone who might be interesting to talk to, I walk up and talk to them. CTO of Amazon? Go up and say hi. Then suddenly I'm "lucky" enough to get this: http://aws.amazon.com/heroes/usa/jeremy-edberg/
I was born in a wealthy country, to sane and supportive parents. I was born with a talent for mathematics and technology, and am reasonably intelligent. I had a family that encouraged learning. With the exception of some run-ins with addiction and mood disorders, I still have my health, despite my best efforts to destroy it while an addict. I am sober now partly because of the efforts of others.
I have managed to grab onto some awesome opportunities that have rolled past now that I'm healthier, and am currently working at a shockingly successful startup, but it was not strictly my own doing.
I don't disagree with what I think you're really getting at - take opportunities that present themselves, "luck is when preparation meets opportunity", don't wait around for things to happen, make them happen, and so on. I just think it's a bit of a stretch, and frankly a bit smug, to declare that there's "no such thing as luck."
There are countless examples and very famous and successful people will often point to all the luck in their lives. To name just one example Ed Catmull, president of Pixar and Disney Animation points out all the luck in his life in his Creativity Inc book.
Luck that Lucas decided to sell Pixar, Luck that Jobs bought it before it got disbanded. Luck that Jobs failed to turn Pixar into a computer company like he tried to do for a couple of years. Luck that Jobs was willing to sink so much money into a losing company IIRC 57 million before they switch to animation.
I'm sure others can name other examples.
So maybe Luck is a belief... and belief is what decisions are made of, good and bad.
I think you are referring to attitude prior to the roll of the dice and interpretation of the outcome of the roll of the dice, rather than being able to influence the roll of the dice itself - with a positive outlook you can appear or feel more "lucky", and that is generally a good thing.
I completely agree though. There is a famous quote that goes something along the lines of "Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity". If you want "luck", you need to go out and meet people! Go out and cast the net of opportunity!
Funny you linked to that exact AWS page, since I was just on there an hour ago. I was reading AWS for Dummies to prepare for an upcoming interview at AWS. I know you handled reddit's EC2 traffic. What advice would you give to somebody looking to get into a career with AWS? I'm a senior in EE at college with a background in networking and I see Amazon's cloud services only growing in the upcoming decades.
I'm not sure what they are looking for, but I'd say learn your distributed computing theory. Most every person I talk to there is quite competent in that aspect of CS.
You should be learning about things like hashing algorithms, bulkheading, backpressure, caching and cache invalidation and coherence, and eventual consistency, among other things. Start with those and you'll have a good foundation for your interview.
Heck, if you just read the pages on those topics you'll be way ahead of the game, and if you follow the related links, you can give yourself a solid foundation in a day.
(2) The role of entrepreneurship in our economy
and society and how to be a successful
(3) The connections, common and/or possible,
between high end academics and careers, especially
business and entrepreneurship.
(4) Clinical Psychology 101 and how to detect,
understand, and respond to the common problems.
(5) The shockingly large fraction of people
who make messes out of their lives for no
good reason, and how to detect, understand, and
respond to what they are doing.
(6) The surprising ability of some people to
have terrible lives for their first 20 years
but seemingly put all that aside and have good lives.
(7) What parts of advanced mathematics are powerful
for valuable applications and how to make such applications.
(8) Real Politics 101, or how to please 50+% of the
people saying next to nothing and otherwise saying just
(9) Always look for the hidden agenda.
(10) Organizational Behavior 101.
(11) The common real situations of marriage and
parenting in the US, e.g., "there are a lot of
affairs". If you have or may have significant
wealth, then no way should you get married without
a rock solid pre-nup. As in
the opera Rigoletto, La donna è mobile,
that is, "The woman is fickle". From "The Big Sky",
"You can never tell what a woman will do next.".
(12) How fiction works in books, plays, TV,
and movies, and how it connects with the
mass media including what is called the news.
(13) What are the really important things
in life and how to understand
(14) The world changed a lot from 1800 to
1900 and then from 1900 to 2000 and then
from 2000 to 2015. Rapid change will
likely continue. Expect and accept it,
welcome it, and take advantage of it.
(15) A good family is one of the most
important things, and to have one likely
you have to work hard to make it so.
E.g., watch the 2014 Budweiser SuperBowl
commercial about a puppy and love at
There pay attention to the song and, as at
to the words of the song, i.e.,
"Well you only need the light when it's
Only miss the sun when it starts to snow.
Only know you love her when you let her
Only know you've been high when you're
Only hate the road when you're missing
And you let her go. And you let her go
When you let her go."
So, when you do have her,
Lesson: Don't let her go.
And, if she lets you go, try to be a good
leader and guide her to seeing the
importance of her not letting you go.
Both of you need love, and together both
of your can solve that problem for both of
you. It's important.
If you wait till things get cheap you'll be at the end of the line (I'm thinking of not starting businesses like auctions, search, employment, etc. in the 1990's because everything was expensive. )
Learn about Robert Kiyosaki's (Rich Dad, Poor Dad) four quandrants.
Learn what's meant by secular & cyclical bull markets and what their length is. Learn how important demographics are (Right now my "baby boom" generation is trying to sell it's homes to a generation with fewer people.) Learn what normally happens when the Fed pumps money into the economy. First it goes into the stock market, then the economy, then inflation takes hold. Since the emerging economies (Asia) will grow faster then the older developed economies (North America & Europe), over a long period of time the returns should be higher in Asia. If you have a long period of time (100yrs) you don't need to take risk. You can simply invest in the big, growing companies that increase their dividend year after year. Buy when there's blood in the streets. After a disaster is always a good time to invest somewhere. Just because some junior mining company says they've found an anomaly, it doesn't mean anything. So few mines prove to be economic it's unreal. 1 in 1,000? 1 in 10,000? Look it up. There's too much :)
Sorry for the snipe/snark, but... I mean, there's no right or wrong to chronological age. It's not something we have any control over.
Having said that, I also read the parent's phrasing/remark more as an "observation" of ageism and similar social cut-off constructs that have lately become very prevalent in most professional spheres. So, perhaps they have voiced what they've been observing both around their own lives and within their circles.
My read of age in software is that the age discrimination culture is less severe outside of the Bay Area. I certainly meet people over 50-60+ in Chicago and New York who are still programming and highly respected.
It does seem better in the Midwest. And it's not that bad in New York, although the cost of living is brutal. The nuttiness going on in the Bay Area seems to be a young man's game (and, if you're not well-connected enough to be made a founder out of the gates, a stupid young man's game).
When I was younger, I expected change to happen much faster. Hovercars and jetpacks, but also World Government, peace on Earth, and food for the hungry.
We haven't really made much progress. I have high hopes for new players in the transportation and space industries, and for medical advances based on genetics and bioinformatics, but experience tells me not to hold my breath.
But there are also surprises the other way. In 1975, no one believed the U.S. would have a non-white president so soon.
I now live in a state of (very) tempered optimism.
* Don't let anybody else define success. You are not in high school anymore--chart your own path.
* Count your blessings. Be grateful, if not to God then to your parents or somebody besides yourself.
Sure, if you hate your job, or it's meaningless. But let's turn this around. Do great painters wish they had spent less time painting? Or do they wish they could finish their last project. Do writers wish they had written less, or do they wish they could live long enough to finish that last book?
I do what I do because I enjoy doing it more than spending time with my family. For better or for worse, it is a compulsion, a calling, not a job.
The way most people seem to mean this is one in which it's trivially true, since work is unpleasant but necessary and family is pleasant but scarce.
There is work out there that people love and not only activities that you get compensated for qualify as "work". Similarly there's relatives out there that people do wish they'd spend less time with.
With that said, there are plenty of people who believe their job does the world good and wish they could do more good before they are taken away from this life. I hope to be one of them.
To say such a thing also isn't necessarily opposed to belief that hard work is good, or that it is valuable to one's self and society. It simply means that if you work too much, you can miss out on life.
2. Work out 3-4 days per week
3. Portion control works. Eating from a restricted list works (YES fruits, vegetables, meats, nuts, seeds, non-grain-based oils. LIMIT dairy. NO sugar/grain(flour,rice,corn)) So, weight watchers or something like Paleo or Zone. (Fat all my life until 35 or so)
What's your opinion on leveraged equity? I have a few mutual funds that have been killing it since I bought them (a few years ago) but everything I read, says not to hold them longer then a few days. Its hard to sell something that's actively making money. One example, is I bought bipix back around Sept 2011.
My plan to make money via knowledge and work is through writing software. The risky instruments I hold are options in the company I work for and equity in my own projects. I want to spend near 0 time on financial engineering -- the purpose of the portfolio is to balance the risks I take at work.
My accumulated wealth is in low-fee index funds (mostly stocks, but a fair amount of bonds and international).
In your specific example, BIPIX is trying to outdo the Dow Jones U.S. Biotechnology Index. In 3yrs, DJBioTech returned ~200% and BIPIX is better (~240%). I'd have to know the fees to know which returned better net fees. The BIPIX managers claim they are going for 1.5 return of the DJBioTech, which they have not in the 3 year period. In the 1 year they are swapping back and forth (BIPIX currently (EDIT: I said ahead, but it's actually) behind not taking fees into account)
If I wanted the return of a specific sub-market industry, I would buy the unmanaged index that best represents that industry.
Basically -- we have no evidence that mutual fund managers can beat indexes in the long term, but we know fees and taxes for sure.
(Except maybe for this article.)
If don't pay close attention to your audience,
then you risk offending, confusing, or losing
your audience and creating emotional upset,
rational misunderstanding, and
maybe even hostility.
In paying attention to your audience, often
have to put yourself in the state, i.e., position,
of your audience. That is, from paying attention
to your audience, you have to try to understand
their backgrounds, thinking, and emotions,
anticipate (that is, guess in advance)
what their reactions will be, and, then,
revise your message for them, say, to
get your real message across and avoid
misunderstandings, terrible emotional
reactions, etc. This advice is especially
important in romantic and/or family communications.
Right, this extra step means that
in communicating you have to think about
two things, not just one, that is,
think about both the core content you
are trying to communicate and also
what your audience might be getting.
Especially good in one on one communications, one,
good, sometimes crucial,
general technique is reflective listening, that
is, asking the other person to summarize and repeat
back their understanding of what you communicated.
Or, in terms of electronic engineering,
write, read back, and then compare
what tried to write with what
read back! A big reason here is that
emotions, unstated assumptions,
various fears, etc. can
get seriously in the way of
even simple messages.
In particular, for a large fraction
of human females, often their first
reaction to any communications from
a man is to be afraid of various
things -- or just be afraid even without
knowing why. For some 101 level
lessons, maybe have a nervous kitty
cat (some are quite nervous, are
scaredy cats) and learn how to
detect when they are scared and
how to respond and, then, how over
time to make them much less scared.
Then for human females, slowly work
your way up from this 101 level lesson to
a graduate course!
2. That people will always prefer the YouTube video over all other alternatives: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sTJ7AzBIJoI
3. That meta is convoluted.
I would have made an effort to get a beau 10 years ago if I'd known!
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Commonly attributed to Mark Twain
never measure yourself against where you want to be, but to where you were.
always ask for things, no one is going to do it for you.
you can't make everyone happy (especially on hacker news ;) ). find an audience that resonates with you and make them happy.
you're not a special snowflake.
* Value experience more than things.
- Being smart is the price of entry, but drive matters more. (The #1 & #2 people from my high school class of 500+ had nominal professional success. The breakout successes were the 5'2" guy who made the basketball team, and the chunky musician who never missed a class 6-12. Both were smart, but their drive carried them.)
- If you see a partial ethical lapse from someone, the odds are there are more full lapses to follow. Give second chances for a lot of failures, but not ethical lapses.
- The group of who you is important to you shrinks, not grows over time.
- Somehow you have a lot less free time when you have the so-called "boring, married and 2 kids" life. It's still worth doing. (Kids are simultaneously much more time than you'd imagine, much more frustration, and much more awesome)
- Be smart about money. Remember that every dollar of debt needs to be paid back. Would the future you say, "I really wish I had pissed away X getting..."
- Throw out stuff. You won't miss it, and there's a cost of carrying it around. Spend on experience instead.
- With alcohol, go for quality over quantity. You'll spend less money for a better experience.
- It's not worth spending time with negative people.
- Don't wait until you have a daughter to lose the sexism.
- Go to the dentist and doctor regularly, and listen to them.
- Prepare to reinvent yourself multiple times.
- Most of your peer group won't achieve the success that they assume will happen naturally. (Life is a pyramid scheme, and what gets you across the first few steps won't get you past the next few, and lots of people drop off along the way)
- Luck matters a lot, but operate like it doesn't at all.
- Be twice as responsible as you think you need to be, because you don't know the other person's perception. Assume the other person will only be half as responsible.
- If you see warning signs at work, move quickly, leaving the handcuffs behind. They won't stay gold for long.
- Take the soft classes seriously.
- Become so talented that you're the "Go To" person, and such a good teacher that you've replaced yourself by the time you want to go to bigger and better things.
- With other people, you sometimes have to choose between Being Right and Having a Relationship. There's no loss of character for keeping quiet.
- Confidence inspires confidence. It's ok to commit on 80% certainty when the other guy is committing on 60%.