It's about balance. In my case, my introversion is strong enough that I usually let it have its way. If I find myself doing that too often, I try to be mindful of it and moderate it. It's work, though. Friendships need work. I have a hell of a time explaining this to my more extraverted friends -- many of whom "don't see it," because I'm not particularly shy or reserved in social settings. (Incidentally, I've been called an asshole or a misanthrope on occasion, because people don't "buy" my introversion. They just think I'm avoiding them.)
> I have a hell of a time explaining this to my more extraverted
> friends -- many of whom "don't see it," because I'm not
> particularly shy or reserved in social settings. [...]
> because people don't "buy" my introversion. They just think
> I'm avoiding them.)
God, yes. Huge sad ongoing thing in my life. This is a constant thing I do. I'm not awkward, so I make these friendships, and then I unintentionally hurt people with my introverted tendencies.
It's about balance. In my case, my introversion is strong enough that I usually let it have its way. If I find myself doing that too often, I try to be mindful of it and moderate it. It's work, though. Friendships need work. I have a hell of a time explaining this to my more extraverted friends -- many of whom "don't see it," because I'm not particularly shy or reserved in social settings. (Incidentally, I've been called an asshole or a misanthrope on occasion, because people don't "buy" my introversion. They just think I'm avoiding them.)