I have been there, it took a long to force myself to leave the situation.
A wise man said about overly restrictive religous regulations, "Sabbath was made for Man, not Man for the Sabbath", meaning the rules of rest on Sunday and etc are meant to make our lives better, we were not created to suffer for the glorification of some set of rules.
A job is supposed to make your life better -- steady income, you can have more stuff, etc. If it is taking up too much time, requires you to live where you don't want to (my case), then the job is not doing it's job.
A house and mortgage are supposed to make your life better. You live in a nicer place, you can observe your equity and wealth increasing month by month, you have more freedom to change your house or take up hobbies that you might not do in a rented house. If the mortgage requires you work too much to enjoy the house, the mortgage isn't doing it's job.
I'm not advising making any rash decisions like going full hippy or something, but in a more gradual and moderate way, you can feel out your boss about working four days a week; look at your life and cut some spending, ditching the house and renting if that is what gives greater freedom and security; etc.
Careers and houses aren't worth that much. They don't hang around that long or increase in value that much in the long run. If you look at the number of times the average American moves or switches careers, any helathy cat or dog will outlive your current career and house. They just aren't worth giving up life long dreams or health for. Now your marriage, that could be different.
Try suggesting to your boss that you will commit to being in the office 10 hours a day, but need every Friday off. When he shoots it down, wait a week and then suggest trying it only one week a month.
Also, take your ideas and break them up into extremely small tasks, that take an hour or less. If you can look down a TODO list and see something quickly achievable, that can get you going even when you are exhausted.
A wise man said about overly restrictive religous regulations, "Sabbath was made for Man, not Man for the Sabbath", meaning the rules of rest on Sunday and etc are meant to make our lives better, we were not created to suffer for the glorification of some set of rules.
A job is supposed to make your life better -- steady income, you can have more stuff, etc. If it is taking up too much time, requires you to live where you don't want to (my case), then the job is not doing it's job.
A house and mortgage are supposed to make your life better. You live in a nicer place, you can observe your equity and wealth increasing month by month, you have more freedom to change your house or take up hobbies that you might not do in a rented house. If the mortgage requires you work too much to enjoy the house, the mortgage isn't doing it's job.
I'm not advising making any rash decisions like going full hippy or something, but in a more gradual and moderate way, you can feel out your boss about working four days a week; look at your life and cut some spending, ditching the house and renting if that is what gives greater freedom and security; etc.
Careers and houses aren't worth that much. They don't hang around that long or increase in value that much in the long run. If you look at the number of times the average American moves or switches careers, any helathy cat or dog will outlive your current career and house. They just aren't worth giving up life long dreams or health for. Now your marriage, that could be different.
Try suggesting to your boss that you will commit to being in the office 10 hours a day, but need every Friday off. When he shoots it down, wait a week and then suggest trying it only one week a month.
Also, take your ideas and break them up into extremely small tasks, that take an hour or less. If you can look down a TODO list and see something quickly achievable, that can get you going even when you are exhausted.