>Women are enculturated to be uncomfortable most of the time. And to ignore their discomfort.
>The real problem isn't that we — as a culture — don't sufficiently consider men's biological reality. The problem is rather that theirs is literally the only biological reality we ever bother to consider.
>It boggles the mind that Sullivan thinks we don't sufficiently consider men's biological reality when our entire society has agreed to organize itself around the pursuit of the straight male orgasm
The article addresses a couple real concerns. But the quoted bits make me think that the author has constructed a viewpoint about society that is intentionally unrealistic and hystrionic. When you do that, you get to beat your war drums, but you lose credit to folks that aren't on the same rhythm.
I disagree. I think the part you quoted provides a vital perspective that is still too often neglected.
Society is still primarily organised around the male perspective and male desires. We're working on correcting that, and have made some good progress, but we're not remotely done. There are still many men who feel entitled to sex and female attention regardless of whether the woman is interested in them or in sex at that moment.
We need to find a better way, a better balance, and we're not there yet.
Tl;dr: Many women have painful sex; many more aren't taught how to clearly set, assess and enforce boundaries when it comes to having sex, which means they're left vulnerable to bad experiences of a lesser sort. Sometimes these aversive experiences involve badly-behaving and opportunistic actors, but quite often they do not. Somehow, this proves that those who are concerned that the whole #metoo thing might be getting out of hand are totally wrong and missing the point. This was published in a for pay magazine btw, that asks for a subscription ($$$) to read 'more content like this'.
>The real problem isn't that we — as a culture — don't sufficiently consider men's biological reality. The problem is rather that theirs is literally the only biological reality we ever bother to consider.
>It boggles the mind that Sullivan thinks we don't sufficiently consider men's biological reality when our entire society has agreed to organize itself around the pursuit of the straight male orgasm
The article addresses a couple real concerns. But the quoted bits make me think that the author has constructed a viewpoint about society that is intentionally unrealistic and hystrionic. When you do that, you get to beat your war drums, but you lose credit to folks that aren't on the same rhythm.