Basically, as was learned in the early 2000's, don't take a job for the options.
This is not good advice. Options can be -- and often are -- a great investment, amazing compensation for taking a risk with a job at a startup. Of course it's wrong to think that an option as money in the bank. It's equally wrong to think that they're worth nothing, to not carefully consider them as part of joining a new startup, etc.
You say it is not good advice, but then you say "Of course it's wrong to think that an option as money in the bank." As an employee, would you rather take money in the bank as salary, bonuses, and commission or would you rather risk your hard work on options where there is a very good chance (no matter how hard you work or how much you believe in the company) that the company will never make good on those options, and even if they do, they will have been significantly diluted by investors?
Just because you perhaps made money on options doesn't mean everyone would. I've never talked with a developer that was significantly happy in his/her choice of getting compensated for his/her work in options.
A 25% chance to receive $1 is worth something. A 1% chance for $2 is worth something too, as is a 100% chance of $0.01. Everyone here can work out which of these is worth more than others, even though there's a strong chance that any of these bets could "turn out" worthless.
The problem is that options are harder to value: there are many more result scenarios and the math is a little more complicated. As a result, many people opt out of doing the math entirely, and they think either "it's basically worthless" or "it's basically money in the bank."
The latter error is much worse than the former, but here are two consequences of the former: (1) one is less likely to work at a startup which might (in reality) be the best choice, and (2) if one is working at a startup, one's less likely to be nearly as alert to the risks and targets that may make the option worth less or more (at least as a probabilistic matter). The latter is why the options are a win-win for the company and employee.
By the way, I do understand that different people have different tolerances for risk and for different kinds of risk. But even if someone is biased very heavily towards low-risk situations (which is perfectly fine), it's best to do the math, understand the risk/reward profile of the option and then apply that against your own risk tolerance.
This is not good advice. Options can be -- and often are -- a great investment, amazing compensation for taking a risk with a job at a startup. Of course it's wrong to think that an option as money in the bank. It's equally wrong to think that they're worth nothing, to not carefully consider them as part of joining a new startup, etc.