Misspelled throwaway because want to talk about this and not have people misunderstand and hate me.
There was a similar small bruhaha in the Rust community severals weeks ago. They hired a community manager who has leanings (nothing wrong with that), but had made tweets like "kill all men".
Believe no actual ill will was intended, but you could see why it may trigger people. In the thread announcing this person's new role, a few people brought up issues like this (that wasn't an isolated sentiment, it was a pattern of behavior) and the mods for a while simply deleted any criticism, then they made a hard rule that nobody could talk about it (because that was related to personal issues). This rule was in the interest of preventing harassment (which yeah, legit reason), but it was completely tone deaf. You can't appoint a community manager who has made pointed statements about people in your community and then shut down discussion in the interest of tolerance.
Check out the thread, it looks like a warzone. It turned me off Rust a little bit.
had made tweets like "kill all men"...Believe no actual ill will was intended
If someone thinks "kill all X" is okay, depending on the value of X, then there's something really weird going on! What if X is any of these? Women, Black people, Jews, Lesbians, Asians, Gay people, Republicans, or Rich People? Back in the good old days, "prejudice" meant judging people on their surface characteristics as opposed to on their merits, and such a statement would have been seen as highly suspect. Now, it's seen as the kind of stuff "Social Justice Advocates" say? People who are "community managers" have such a distorted sense of fairness that they can't parse what they're doing?
I guess even supposedly intelligent tech people believe this "X-ism == Prejudice + Power" crap? Sorry, but racism is judging people by only their race, and sexism is judging people only by their sex. The direction of the arrow does not matter. Anyone who believes something like that hasn't learned skeptical thought, and anyone who promulgates that is supporting a supremacist position of one group dominating another.
Power is contextual. This is clearly true, as demonstrated by history. Anyone who promulgates "X-ism == Prejudice + Power" as if Power is a global, unchanging vector is either dishonest, disconnected from reality, or ignorant of history.
The very act of censoring people bringing up her past behavior is very indicative that they're fully aware of the double standards within their community.
Indeed. I don't think people should be punished their entire lives for statements they made in the past. A very simple, "we are aware of the statments that X has made in the past and they have assured us that they regret them and will not be a concern going forward." would go a long way.
But if the individual stands by those same public comments calling for violence against a particular race or ethnicity then cause for concern is justified. By silencing that concern they are not doing themselves or anyone else a favor.
Technically they didn't fire him—he resigned after a loud/extended uproar. It may have been illegal for Mozilla to fire him for this donation because in CA political activity constitutes a protected class.
There are always facts particular to each case. That's why arguments can continue forever -- there is always some mitigating factor you can point to that makes your side OK.
But if you are objective about it you would probably come to the conclusion that conservative political viewpoints or support will hurt you in the SF area, but even radical liberal viewpoints will not.
The prop was, by any measure, mainstream at the time. It may have been on the wrong side of history, but remember that even Obama expressed a lack of support for gay marriage in the past.
Any political issue seems like the most important thing in the world if you look closely enough and lose perspective. Let's move on. Any political position even close to the mainstream should not cost you your job unless you are a politician. But political stuff, for the most part, should not take over the workplace either.
> Let's move on. Any political position even close to the mainstream should not cost you your job unless you are a politician. But political stuff, for the most part, should not take over the workplace either.
Here, here! Many people seem to need to learn how be able to create some distance between themselves and their ideas, so they can put those ideas away when its appropriate and interact with others on different levels.
But if you are objective about it you would probably come to the conclusion that conservative political viewpoints or support will hurt you in the SF area, but even radical liberal viewpoints will not.
Even those viewpoints radical to the level of inciting violence.
To be fair, it was for the anti-gay marriage prop, not just some generic right wing thing.
When someone peacefully, nonviolently supports the wrong cause, it should be appreciated. It's the very fact that places like the US can settle political debates and get on with life without resorting to violence which makes the USA such a great place to live. There's a reason why the ability to transfer power and make policy peacefully is measured in development indexes.
If you want to gauge the justice of a side, then look for their benevolence and intellectual honesty. If you want to speak truth to power, then look to the side that's hounding people out of their jobs and trying to intimidate their enemies into silence. Nelson Mandela called his commissions, "Truth and Reconciliation" commissions, not "let's look back and see who was on the wrong side and dismantle their lives" commissions.
There's a false equivalence. There's never been male genocide, so "kill all men" is basically a joke. But there's nothing funny about advocating for genocide against the Jewish people, because that actually happened.
That's why the standard for orientation discrimination doesn't apply to straight people. It's why the standard for race discrimination doesn't apply to white people. And it's why the standard for sex discrimination doesn't apply to cis men. The history is just very different.
Are you saying that we should treat entire classes of modern people differently based on the events involving ancestors with similar superficial characteristics like skin color and sex?
Last I heard, it was best to treat people equally.
> Are you saying that we should treat entire classes of modern people differently based on the events involving ancestors with similar superficial characteristics like skin color and sex?
Not at all! I'm saying that the history of women in the US is different than the history of men in the US, and that the experience of women in the US is different than the history of men in the US. For example, women are far, far more likely to be physically assaulted by a man than a man is by a woman. And we're not just talking about a dozen or so cases: violence against women is epidemic in the US (and most of the world).
So rather than using "ancestors", we can use "people currently alive". And rather than "superficial characteristics like skin color and sex" we can use "ascribed statuses" like race and sex.
Or we can leave sex out of it. Let's say there was a group of men who have, for centuries, been victimized by the rest of men. They've been abducted, sold, tortured, murdered, humiliated and exploited for centuries. That's the story of Black men (and women, of course) in America.
We can't make some simple rules about "fairness" and leave it at that. We have to understand the history of people, the history of our culture, and the current ways our culture oppresses people before we can even begin to talk about fairness. If we want to be fair towards Black people we have to take into account the effects of slavery, Jim Crow, segregation, discrimination, and institutional racism. If we want to be fair towards women we have to take into account chattel, disenfranchisement, sexism, and rape culture.
Not doing this is essentially breaking someone's leg before a sprint, and when they lose and they say "Wow, that was super unfair!" we say "Wow you had the same rules! What are you upset about? That whole leg breaking thing happened a _long time ago_"
So you are saying that we should treat entire classes of modern people differently based on the events involving ancestors with similar superficial characteristics like skin color and sex.
Your excuse is "history."
I know of some other groups who have engaged in that sort of ideology. One is the KKK. The other is the Nazis. Also, the Soviets all throughout the USSR, particularly in Ukraine.
Not doing this is essentially breaking someone's leg before a sprint, and when they lose and they say "Wow, that was super unfair!" we say "Wow you had the same rules! What are you upset about? That whole leg breaking thing happened a _long time ago_"
You are super ignorant of history, because you are buying into a far-left propaganda version of history used to justify inter-group conflict. If slavery is leg breaking, then also note that Koreans have been doing it to Koreans, Europeans have been doing it to Europeans, Africans have been doing it to fellow Africans. If there has been a lot of leg breaking going on, the solution is to stop the leg breaking, not engage in recriminations about it.
Since when have recriminations been the solution to peace in history?
> So you are saying that we should treat entire classes of modern people differently based on the events involving ancestors with similar superficial characteristics like skin color and sex.
No I'm not using skin color (can we just say race?) and sex, and I don't think you can just dismiss history as an excuse. For example, there are a lot of people in Africa who look like Black people, but when they come to the US they haven't labored under the same kind of racism that Blacks have, so their history and culture are different, and they don't have the same disadvantages (they still have many). However, if they have kids here that difference pretty much goes away for them.
> I know of some other groups who have engaged in that sort of ideology. One is the KKK. The other is the Nazis. Also, the Soviets all throughout the USSR, particularly in Ukraine.
I earnestly hope you're not comparing me to the KKK, Nazis, and the Soviets, so let's proceed as though you aren't.
> You are super ignorant of history, because you are buying into a far-left propaganda version of history used to justify inter-group conflict.
I really don't know what this means. Slavery in the US was horrible and its effects reverberate today. We're continuing to have a national debate about how to view the Confederacy (which I personally think is ridiculous -- it was a monstrous pro-slavery rebellion resulting in the deaths of millions of Americans) and historic Americans who were also slave owners. Slavery, along with Jim Crow and segregation, really did happen and institutional racism persists to this day.
Also maybe be a little nicer.
> Koreans have been doing it to Koreans
Nobi made up around 10% of the Korean population and wasn't based on race. Black slaves in the US made up about 50% of the population in the South and... are Black. There was no Korean Jim Crow and no Korean segregation, probably both because of WW2 and because, again, slavery in Korea wasn't racial.
> Europeans have been doing it to Europeans
The most recent example of this is Barbary slavery, but again there are significant differences: slavery wasn't inherited and it wasn't race-based. Also no Jim Crow or segregation.
> Africans have been doing it to fellow Africans.
I'm guessing this list is your argument that slavery shouldn't be an excuse today, but Wikipedia has a whole section on effects in Slavery in Africa [1]. It's also in many ways intertwined with the Atlantic slave trade. Africa is a big place so this topic is just too big, but suffice it to say this too was super bad and continues to cause problems today.
> If there has been a lot of leg breaking going on, the solution is to stop the leg breaking, not engage in recriminations about it. Since when have recriminations been the solution to peace in history?
I don't know what you mean by "recriminations" here. If anyone's making recriminations ("an accusation in response to one from someone else") it's the people saying "What are you upset about?" -- their accusation came second...?
Maybe what you mean is "bringing the whole slavery/segregation thing up all the time". But like it or not, we can't escape the actions of people we have no relation to, because those actions had long-lasting effects we continue to deal with. We don't get to disclaim responsibility for the current state of our society, because it's our society now.
I agree we should stop leg breaking -- or really what I mean here is we should address our racist, misogynistic, homophobic and transphobic culture. Something like 30% of the US is cis, straight, white, and male. That means 70% of the US deals with some form of discrimination constantly, every day, all the time. This discrimination has significant effects on health, crime, the economy, really everything for all of us. Men face discrimination as well: look at the prison population for example.
This is an urgent, national issue rooted in our culture from before we were even a country. In order to even start talking about it, we need to understand its history. It's not merely an "excuse".
I'm willing to let her insitements for genocide slide, it happens to the best of us, but what really worries me is her plan to "improve Cargo by incorporating best practices from npm".
I'm not really letting it slide, I was extending the premise by pretending to be a sympathetic genocidal nazi, which I hope is still absurd enough to be presumed sarcasm. I'm aware that the joke may not age well so I was happy to get it in while I still can.
The CoC complaint is amazing and has me really worried about Rust and I wonder where the adults are. Usually Meta Language people are meritocracy driven so I'm surprised to see a feminist infiltration. GoLang I could understand...
Personally, I have no problem with people saying things like this, especially in their personal lives. I like banter. But part of banter is that both sides are allowed to play. If someone can express extreme ideas like "kill all men" I should be able to make equally extreme jokes, but in different ideological directions.
What bothers me is not the language, but the unfairness. I can understand not permitting banter at work or in organizations. It makes some people uncomfortable. But what I can't understand is just allowing banter of some ideological bent.
> I can understand not permitting banter at work or in organizations. It makes some people uncomfortable. But what I can't understand is just allowing banter of some ideological bent.
I can. The point of "[only] allowing banter of [a particular] ideological bent" is to enforce conformity to that ideology. When that happens fairness isn't a priority.
> What bothers me is not the language, but the unfairness.
I've worked under an HR staff member who had this pin on her bag. I lived, and that job was good enough, but the thought was always in the back of my mind: what if I piss her off some day and she falls back on her prejudices + her position to make my life miserable?
I would support a blanket ban on all things like that _in the workplace_.
That his clear prejudice against women would make him unfit to ever manage women. That the women on his team would know he thought they were inferior (despite him never saying that).
"Kill all men" though... I'm sure the guys on her team would get a fair shake, right?
I'm tired of people using the shallowest understanding of bigotry in order to harass those who call out bigotry. When a feminist says "kill all men", they're saying "the patriarchy has oppressed women for centuries and I'm angry about it". When a racial justice advocate says "kill all white people" they're saying "white people are literally murdering people of color and I'm angry about it". When a white male software engineer at Google makes the argument to everyone at the company that women are biologically less suited to be engineers, he's invoking an incomprehensible history of physical, financial, and cultural oppression -- a mindset that we still struggle to escape today. They are not the same thing.
Please start thinking more deeply about these issues and please do some research. Racism, transphobia, sexism, misogyny, and homophobia are all far more complicated than a few language rules.
If an individual who I have never met before approaches me wearing a pin that says "kill all men", it is not my responsibility to understand the years of philosophy reading that have caused them to express a totally reasonable and nuanced perspective in very easily misunderstood words. It is 100% reasonable for me to expect that those words mean what they say, and not some other, more subtle meaning that I am unaware of.
Even if this is actually true! Even if it is actually true that "kill all men" expands into this reasonable position. Because I have no access to what goes on inside someone else's head. All I have access to is what I see.
And when I, a man, see a person with management authority over me, wearing a pin that says 'kill all men', I get scared. This is not appropriate for a workplace, no moreso than any white supremacist garbage is.
If someone doesn't have a decoder book handy to make these translations, how are they supposed to react? How are you supposed to have an actual discussion and change minds if things phrased in such a hostile manner from the start?
If your goal is to have an actual discussion and change minds, you should know about the subject matter. So you don't need a decoder book, you just need to google "misogyny in america".
That's the constructive thing to do, if you're interested.
edit --
Hey I wrote a little screenplay to demonstrate how a conversation like this might go, in order to placate some of the totally earnest replies below:
A: kill all men
B: huh, A, what's that about?
A: Peter Thiel blames the 19th Amendment for the collapse of our society; the patriarchy is everywhere
All of which is to say that if you ask, "huh, A, what's that about?" instead of, "you genocidal maniac feminism is the worst and you're the worst" you can have a discussion.
I don't understand. If I read something that says "kill all men" and I am not aware of the context attached to it, how am I supposed to make the leap to Google "misogyny in america"?
Edit: To respond to your edit, I'm saying through the initial phrasing of the statement, a good portion of people will be alienated and likely not get to the point where they ask "huh, what's that about?". I don't know if that's intentional or not but given how pervasive these problems are framed, I would think attracting as large of an audience as possible would be beneficial.
> in order to placate some of the totally earnest replies below
This is not conducive to any productive discussion. I've responded with questions because I'm curious about the intent and goals behind these tactics. If you don't think I'm being earnest then why bother responding?
> through the initial phrasing of the statement, a good portion of people will be alienated
There are plenty of people out there teaching us about feminism. Trolling Twitter to find straw men to burn is not constructive. It's not every woman's responsibility to teach us about feminism. They get to be angry and frustrated; they don't have to be perfect ambassadors at all times.
> I'm curious about the intent and goals behind these tactics.
These aren't tactics. These are just people fed up with the patriarchy.
> If you don't think I'm being earnest then why bother responding?
Mostly because I find it hard to believe anyone's actually worried about male genocide, and false outrage is like the #1 tactic in discussions like this. You can see it in other responses like "well well well, who's SEXIST now?!"
There are a lot of assumptions in your post and I hope my response clarifies my position.
>There are plenty of people out there teaching us about feminism. Trolling Twitter to find straw men to burn is not constructive. It's not every woman's responsibility to teach us about feminism. They get to be angry and frustrated; they don't have to be perfect ambassadors at all times.
I was not referencing Twitter, I was quoting what was in your post. I did not say anyone was responsible for teaching anyone about feminism or how they should function as ambassadors. I do not feel like I need to be educated on this matter and do not care about how ambassadors conduct themselves. However, if you put yourself out there as an ambassador, it's natural that people scrutinize things you say a bit closer than others. When people are able to say that you represent something or are a spokesperson for a cause, they are going to attach your words to it. This ties into the next quote.
> These aren't tactics. These are just people fed up with the patriarchy.
Tactics, messaging, whatever you want to call it, I'm just trying to understand the intent. If people are fed up and this is just venting, then sure, do you I guess? I personally just think it hurts the cause more than it helps it and am wondering if that's a concern or if there's something else going on.
>Mostly because I find it hard to believe anyone's actually worried about male genocide, and false outrage is like the #1 tactic in discussions like this. You can see it in other responses like "well well well, who's SEXIST now?!"
I have not expressed any concern about male genocide. I have been upfront about asking about the intended efficacy behind the type of language used in this. That's all. Assuming ill intent when it's presented upfront is a really good way to lose people who might have been otherwise agreeable to a cause.
I didn’t realize that saying “kill all men” was attempting to foster a useful discussion. In fact, I’d say there’s nothing constructive about saying that even if you know the context.
Right. I don't think that "kill all men" should be taken very seriously and I'll go for it not being as bad as (say) "kill all Jews" for historical reasons. The weird thing is that there's a huge gap between it not being "that bad" and it being no obstacle at all to a leadership position in the community, especially given the Rust community's infamous obsession with language (can't say "thanks guys", can't say "bad style"). The optics on this are really bad.
I fully support equality for all and believe that as long as people are not hurting others what they do with their life and body is their call but your argument is not advancing that cause.
You seem to infer immunity on the part of those you deem oppressed from having their statement being taken at face value but don't extend this same courtesy to those you deem oppressors.
You believe that someone should read "kill all men" and respond in a curious manner, because you think you are in the right, regardless of whether they are a parent of small male children. We exist in a nation of free speech but if you say something, it is not the responsibility of the listener to do the research to figure out if there is some deeper meaning to what you are saying. Even if there is a deeper meaning, calling for the eradication of a gender or race is not going to initiate the productive conversation between the speaker and those being targeted that you think it is. I have young boys and once someone says to me "kill all men" anything else they say is pretty much meaningless. There are better way to initiate a free exchange of ideas.
Many would not extend this courtesy of looking for deeper meaning to those whose view points you are trying to change. Would you be happy to initiate a calm thoughtful conversation with someone who tweets out that "Women are ruining this great nation" or would you call for their firing and censorship?
Individuals have different ideas on life and that's ok but the workplace is not the right place to discuss controversial topics unless the freedom of expression is extended to all view points, and there has to be an understanding that feelings may be hurt on both sides.
Finally, words have specific meaning, especially the written word. Words also carry consequences. If someone says "Kill all men", I will believe that what they mean is "kill all men".
> If someone says "Kill all men", I will believe that what they mean is "kill all men".
What do you think someone means when they say "I'm gonna kill the person who wrote this"? Do you call the cops?
> You seem to infer immunity on the part of those you deem oppressed from having their statement being taken at face value but don't extend this same courtesy to those you deem oppressors.
There's a long history of men oppressing women. There is no history of women oppressing men. So when someone says "kill all men" they can't be referencing a history of oppression. On the other hand when someone says "biologically, women are worse engineers than men", they're referencing a school of thought that has denied women basic human rights and still has modern adherents.
My point is we're not on the verge of a male genocide (it feels ridiculous to even type this). We are always on the verge of taking away freedoms from women and people of color. So I think we need a more nuanced rule than "face value", or whatever.
> Would you be happy to initiate a calm thoughtful conversation with someone who tweets out that "Women are ruining this great nation" or would you call for their firing and censorship?
Censorship? Nah. Firing? If they have an important position then certainly. The same way I would advocate that if they said "Slavery was a good idea" or "Nazism has a lot going for it". We know slavery is wrong. We know Nazism and fascism are wrong. We know misogyny and sexism are wrong. Protesting the patriarchy or being angry about it isn't the same thing.
I'd also be willing to have a conversation with them though, so "both" is the answer to your question I think.
> Individuals have different ideas on life and that's ok but the workplace is not the right place to discuss controversial topics unless the freedom of expression is extended to all view points, and there has to be an understanding that feelings may be hurt on both sides.
Global warming is "controversial" despite being obviously the truth, but we can't move forward on addressing it because we continue to pay lip service to people who just don't believe in it. The same is true of feminism, economics, the criminal justice system, gay rights, immigration, and so many other things. I do care what people think and I want to treat them with respect and consideration, but that doesn't trump our right to things like equal pay, clean air and water, due process, etc.
Or to put it another way, at some point I don't care what bigots think and I don't think they should dictate policy. I don't have to agree to listen to the KKK at work if I want to be able to say that women deserve equal pay. That's nonsense.
>We are always on the verge of taking away freedoms from women and people of color.
Do you honestly believe this? Do you think that tomorrow, most people will wake up and decide women shouldn't be allowed to vote? Is that an active thing that you fear?
I think there are a lot of ways to make it harder for specific groups of people to vote. There are active voter intimidation and misinformation campaigns in every federal election. I don't think we'll repeal the 19th Amendment. I do think it's possible we change how people vote so that it's a lot easier for men to vote than women. Many women work retail and service jobs. It's possible to move voting from public precincts to private workplaces (Indiana's Vote Centers are like this in some ways), with some safeguards about traffic, exposure, etc. You could argue, like the proponents of Vote Centers did, that this is far more convenient and that in order to protect voters and votes, we'll only put Vote Centers in secure offices. Afterwards, fewer people will need precincts so we'll save money by shutting many of them down.
Would a policy like that ever pass? Again, Indiana's doesn't have the "office" stuff but it's pretty close. Would it prevent all women from voting? No. But you don't need to do that really, you just need to pull their turnout down. Same thing with gerrymandering, voter intimidation, etc. You just need to give yourself an solid advantage. And putting Vote Centers in secure offices where the majority of people are male, and then cutting precincts where the makeup is balanced, increases voting access for men and decreases it for everyone else (well OK, middle class and higher men, but you get my point).
Or if limiting voting access is too abstract, look at equal pay. Look at women's health clinics being forced to shut down because they provide abortion services (a crucial component of women's health). Look at women not being allowed in active combat until very, very recently (military promotions are hard to get w/o active combat -- wonder why only 7% of the US' generals are women...).
So no, I don't think we'll repeal the 19th Amendment tomorrow. I think people who are racists, anti-feminists, homophobes, etc. have other tools they use that are actually pretty effective.
I don't think that has an effect on male voter turnout because far worse things happen to you if you don't sign up for selective service.
But you're right, gender roles harm everyone. You can look at the effects of our idea of "masculinity" on male health, they're pretty devastating. One of the main goals of feminism is to eradicate gender roles so people are free to live how they like without laboring under some ancient, outdated ideas on how they should act based on their sex -- which they had no part in choosing.
>When a feminist says "kill all men", they're saying "the patriarchy has oppressed women for centuries and I'm angry about it".
That might be your intent, but that is not how it is interpreted. It sounds bigoted, thus, that language should be avoided if the speaker cares about stopping bigotry.
1. Are you making an "intent is irrelevant" argument about speech outside the workplace?
2. What if the speaker cares about expressing frustration about bigotry? Do they have to get your sign off on how to express it?
3. It's a little wicked to oppress people for centuries, and then tell them they have to choose between expressing anger about it or participating in a constructive dialogue about ending it -- especially when a lot of us don't even recognize the problem.
You should probably be aware of the term "tone-policing," because I think you're very close to being directly accused of it.
In short, it's the social justice idea that:
1) people with the correct identities (LGBT, POC, women, etc) should be able to express themselves as rudely, angrily, or abusively as they like; and that
2) people with other, disfavored, identities (such as white men) cannot object to that rude, angry, or abusive manner of expression. If they do, it's an objectionable form of "oppression." Instead they must take the incivility, be supportive of it, and desperately and submissively search for some kind of positive meaning in the nasty statements. You see this all of the twisting around "kill all men."
However, IMHO, all of that is really just a tactic pushed by a bunch of assholes who want to be jerks to others and get away with it.
Yeah I felt like searine was tone policing a little, but your characterization is... not helpful?
> 1) people with the correct identities (LGBT, POC, women, etc) should be able to express themselves as rudely, angrily, or abusively as they like;
It's not about correct or disfavored identities. It's about people who have been oppressed by society. If I chopped off 20% of your paycheck, you'd probably be angry about it. If I then were like, "whoa, there's no need to be angry", that's super dismissive. You can't do something bad to someone, and then come down on them for reacting angrily.
It's also not "as they like". It's really only specifically about social issues.
> Instead they must take the incivility, be supportive of it, and desperately and submissively search for some kind of positive meaning in the nasty statements.
Basically none of this is right. "submissively"? Really just understand that our culture makes things harder for people who aren't cis straight white men, and don't give them grief when they get frustrated about it.
Bigotry isn't really about words or drawing lines around sex, gender, or race. It's about the institutions that oppress people of color, LGBT people, and women. That's why saying "kill all men" as an expression of frustration isn't the same as, "women are biologically worse engineers than men". The US has no history of male genocide and it's silly to even consider. The US does have a history of curbing the rights of women though, and if people like James Damore have their way we'll start walking back down the path where we curtail the rights, freedoms, and opportunities of women and justify it using "biology".
There is no correlating behavior here. If feminists win out, women will pay the same for health care as men do, we'll have as many women working in STEM as we have men, women will be paid the same money for the same work. You can't equate that with sexism. You can't say that if we want to advocate for equal rights for women in the workplace that we have to tolerate people advocating against equal rights for women in the workplace. It's deeply and clearly wrong. It's like if I want to say "vaccines don't cause autism" we have to give equal air time to people who think they do. No, we don't. They're wrong.
That's why these things aren't the same. I would guess you'll probably just say (again), "people who say 'kill all men' are expressing hate against men, that's misandry and it's bigoted", but please at least consider what I've written now to... idk 8 people in this thread. The worst thing that happens is you come to the conclusion I'm just spending a lot of time ineffectively trolling and burning my karma. But I'm hoping you'll start to consider that the issue is much more complicated.
Bigotry isn't just words, but words matter. A lot. Instead of dumping a ton of words defending bigotry, maybe just use a few well chosen ones to denounce it.
I've spent a lot of time explaining this to you. If you don't want to listen that's fine, if a little disappointing. But really, please do some reading on feminism and anti-racism. Look here [1]. Look at the differences in hate crimes against white and Black people. Or look here [2] and see the differences in unemployment. Or look here [3] and see the difference in prison population. Or look here [4] at the differences between male and female victims of domestic violence. These things happen because of institutional racism and sexism, and if we're going to deal with them we're going to have to be informed.
It's not bigoted. Men have oppressed women -- basically since there have been women. Hell if someone did that to me I'd want to kill them too. Merely recognizing the sex of your oppressor isn't bigoted.
You're asking for a deep knowledge and understanding of bigotry but making a mistake by applying a shallow definition to race in the first place, and isolating that as a direct cause of behavior rather than taking the time to understand the intersectionality of race, class, gender identity and cultural history, among other things.
I'm really tired of having to explain to people that claim to have studied this exact thing why it's not as simple as white people vs everyone else. When you boil it down like that you don't get solutions.
> I'm really tired of having to explain to people that claim to have studied this exact thing why it's not as simple as white people vs everyone else.
Isn't it though? Look at the race numbers for prison, school quality, poverty, profession, representation in media, etc. Even when you control for everything else (especially socioeconomic status; people love to argue that being poor and white is just as hard but hey, racism is still something that poor Black people have to deal with that poor white people don't) race is a huge, dominating factor.
There was a similar small bruhaha in the Rust community severals weeks ago. They hired a community manager who has leanings (nothing wrong with that), but had made tweets like "kill all men".
Believe no actual ill will was intended, but you could see why it may trigger people. In the thread announcing this person's new role, a few people brought up issues like this (that wasn't an isolated sentiment, it was a pattern of behavior) and the mods for a while simply deleted any criticism, then they made a hard rule that nobody could talk about it (because that was related to personal issues). This rule was in the interest of preventing harassment (which yeah, legit reason), but it was completely tone deaf. You can't appoint a community manager who has made pointed statements about people in your community and then shut down discussion in the interest of tolerance.
Check out the thread, it looks like a warzone. It turned me off Rust a little bit.
https://www.reddit.com/r/rust/comments/7nx3cm/announcement_a...
I wish we could talk about these things openly, the way we are handling these discussions only isolates us.