Thanks for the comments. Most of the below are tangential.
By "going deeper", I mean that there is a directionality to using awareness that is best described as "deeper", as that is the experiential signature. The methods I used involved dissecting the experience and emotions with awareness, usually by modifying consciousness. I was introduced to it with shamanic practices, but my usual method was developed through mindfulness meditation (to develop sufficient clarity) and chanting a specific Sanskrit mantra.
So for the jeans example -- to make it more concrete and use a real example, at one point in my life, I bought tactical gear. A friend of mine's even called it, "tacticool". To probe this with the my awareness, I'd rest my awareness on the actual emotions associated with "tacticool". When I was less skilled at this, this took a long time to familiarize myself with the different experiences that might arise from this. There are physical sensations, for example, that comprise of particular emotions, which form the sum of the actual emotional state itself. These are patterns of tension, heat or cold, etc. Then there are the emotional states, which has its own movement, texture, and are clearly _not_ physical. I eventually was able to see how this maps to thoughts. Any given thought will have an emotional basis, although some concepts are so pure (or abstract) that they have a very light footprint. I learned to tune my awareness of a given emotional state from the physical, through the emotional, and to the various narratives/stories it might carry. So when I dissect the desire and attachment to "tacticool", there are very specific images and emotional flows that come through it. There are aggregations of different emotional states, which in turn might be linked to other parts of the psyche. Examples arising when I'm probing this as I write this right now: wanting to be seen as a badass, tough, resilient, etc.; eschewing normal gear to set oneself apart; deeper still, the need to stand out, the need to stand apart, the _fear_ of not being seen, the _fear_ of being alone. I'll stop there; any further will sound too woo.
Further, any given emotion can be given form, even sentience in which one can then interact with anthromorphically. That is, there are shamanic/tantric methods that lets a particular emotional flow take form into a person which you can then have a conversation with about wants and needs. One in particular, detailed in Tsultrim Allione's _Feeding Your Demons: Ancient Wisdom for Resolving Inner Conflict_, goes one step beyond "wants" and the underlying "need", by asking for "how will you feel when you get what you need" (a neat NLP trick, going directly to the result).
Getting back more on topic: I agree about giving people the space to do that. However, I also think that in our race to modernity, we broke and severed a lot of traditional wisdom that helps in this very thing. In more communally-oriented societies, giving a tribe member space is likely more to be a given. (Sure, it depends on the tribe and the culture).
By "going deeper", I mean that there is a directionality to using awareness that is best described as "deeper", as that is the experiential signature. The methods I used involved dissecting the experience and emotions with awareness, usually by modifying consciousness. I was introduced to it with shamanic practices, but my usual method was developed through mindfulness meditation (to develop sufficient clarity) and chanting a specific Sanskrit mantra.
So for the jeans example -- to make it more concrete and use a real example, at one point in my life, I bought tactical gear. A friend of mine's even called it, "tacticool". To probe this with the my awareness, I'd rest my awareness on the actual emotions associated with "tacticool". When I was less skilled at this, this took a long time to familiarize myself with the different experiences that might arise from this. There are physical sensations, for example, that comprise of particular emotions, which form the sum of the actual emotional state itself. These are patterns of tension, heat or cold, etc. Then there are the emotional states, which has its own movement, texture, and are clearly _not_ physical. I eventually was able to see how this maps to thoughts. Any given thought will have an emotional basis, although some concepts are so pure (or abstract) that they have a very light footprint. I learned to tune my awareness of a given emotional state from the physical, through the emotional, and to the various narratives/stories it might carry. So when I dissect the desire and attachment to "tacticool", there are very specific images and emotional flows that come through it. There are aggregations of different emotional states, which in turn might be linked to other parts of the psyche. Examples arising when I'm probing this as I write this right now: wanting to be seen as a badass, tough, resilient, etc.; eschewing normal gear to set oneself apart; deeper still, the need to stand out, the need to stand apart, the _fear_ of not being seen, the _fear_ of being alone. I'll stop there; any further will sound too woo.
Further, any given emotion can be given form, even sentience in which one can then interact with anthromorphically. That is, there are shamanic/tantric methods that lets a particular emotional flow take form into a person which you can then have a conversation with about wants and needs. One in particular, detailed in Tsultrim Allione's _Feeding Your Demons: Ancient Wisdom for Resolving Inner Conflict_, goes one step beyond "wants" and the underlying "need", by asking for "how will you feel when you get what you need" (a neat NLP trick, going directly to the result).
Getting back more on topic: I agree about giving people the space to do that. However, I also think that in our race to modernity, we broke and severed a lot of traditional wisdom that helps in this very thing. In more communally-oriented societies, giving a tribe member space is likely more to be a given. (Sure, it depends on the tribe and the culture).