> Not to mention that women are culturally more cautious about going out than are men when danger is perceived.
I'm not too sure about that. Feminism has spent years encouraging women to ignore whatever dangers lurk in public, while men have been trained for centuries to help a woman in need. Conversely, men are themselves very well aware that they are the primary target of many violent man (if someone is looking for a fight, it's unlikely that they're going to choose a woman) and that they have nobody to count on if push comes to shove.
Anecdotally, all of my male friends have been assaulted (before being 25), some multiple times, whereas even the worst statistics don't imply nearly as much assault of women.
I'm curious about your statement " Feminism has spent years encouraging women to ignore whatever dangers lurk in public." I've only encountered the kind of feminism that gets mad about dangers that lurk in public, and tries to get women to take self-defense classes/carry a rape whistle/get a ride/get some guy to walk them to the car/agitate for campus escorts/fix broken streetlights/raise non-violent sons/. Where are you experiencing this other angle?
You're right that men are assaulted more often in public and that few people help.
Right, because the perpetrator of violence does deserve the blame for their actions. It's not the same as telling women to ignore the dangers, though. The same people who decry victim blaming also support rape whistles, self-defense classes, pepper spray, and safe-ride-home services. (Now, drinking less alcohol... that's not an appreciated message.)
> Anecdotally, all of my male friends have been assaulted (before being 25), some multiple times, whereas even the worst statistics don't imply nearly as much assault of women.
Men are victims of domestic violence in roughly equal numbers to women, according to national health surveys in the US and UK.
(Sidenote: Crime data tells a different story, because men report less often and because official policy in many places is to always charge the man with assault even if he reports being assaulted.)
Although men are not hospitalised by tha violence in anywhere near the same numbers as women. Men are not murdered by their partners as often as women are.
Anecdotally, women encounter verbal assault a lot more frequently than men. Catcalling, whistling, "give me a smile babe" and the like are an awful experience and dehumanizing.
Not to mention that women are culturally more cautious about going out than are men when danger is perceived.