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created:June 29, 2013
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about: I'm a professional career & life coach, with a background in various areas of tech: IT, web development, interface design, as well as other creative disciplines like graphic design, music, and business ownership.


Using my best sentient AI assistant voice, I help people jump in and take responsibility for their goals in a way that gets them results. The mechanism is a combination of personality type, archetype, and trait models.

This is combined with the knowledge that what works for me might not work for you, and I use a variety of methods for modeling our way around that.

The individuals and teams I work with gain really deep self-knowledge. They are able to design a more effective and logical goal-analysis & achievement system because they understand themselves better. They also understand others better, and can leverage a sort of "social technology" to make progress without withdrawing from the game.


Many of those who read this have only experienced coaching as a woo-woo activity where the coach makes dreamy talk about where your heart takes you, and what you'd do if you had wings of an eagle. Or they've experienced it as a kind of pseudo-scam where the coach tells people you how great and wonderful they are in exchange for cold, hard cash, and that's it--nothing really practical or usable or even interesting.

In contrast to such a dystopian coaching vision, :-) the reality of what I do is much more down to earth and even nerdy. You are great and wonderful, of course. And basic psychology lessons will tell you why that's a worthwhile statement to trust. But maybe what's worth discussing is why you can't solve problems as well as you'd like to. Or why you're just burnt out, and what you can do about it. Or maybe you're procrastinating something important and don't see a way forward. Or you have a bunch of possibilities ahead of you in life, and could use some outside help in sorting them.

The nerdy part: While I coach all kinds of people, I specialize in coaching rational people (self-described; I don't have a rational-o-meter) who find that they get the most leverage in taking a rational approach which generally folds in irrationality (which is 100% A-OK and normal) as a secondary or supporting factor. If you like sci-fi and think that being a future-minded idealist in a rational sense is fun and interesting, we'd probably work together really well.

The only requirement is an open mind, because the only way to find out what works for you is to try it. This kind of openness is a personality trait that many here on HN can leverage effectively.

Using this approach myself, I lost over 35% of my bodyweight and overcame obesity. After reaching a healthy weight for the first time in my adult life, I tackled chronic severe anxiety and depression, and was eventually given a completely clean bill of mental health by my psychiatrist. These experiences started me on the road to further education in psychological type, and my current work as a professional coach.

While information on the personality traits of HN readers is limited, a basic poll:


...shows that in terms of type, INTJ and INTP may be overrepresented on HN as compared to what would be expected of a general public sample.

Though the typical four-letter personality model is relatively simple, it does provide leverage for getting at a deeper-than-usual level of insight. I'll try to provide some additional insights on these two types, borrowing from other models:


Note: INTJs may find my personal INTJ blog of interest. https://www.friendlyskies.net/intj

INTJs will tend to come to HN to search for external-thought-systems like frameworks (mental frameworks, software frameworks, etc.) which they can leverage into their personal success system. They seek the "one little tidbit" that can give them huge leverage. INTJs are intuitive in the singular sense, where a driving subconscious vision can easily capture them and cause them to live by a subjective "hallucination" which needs to be made objective in order to be most effective. A key INTJ strength & weakness is reliance upon outside thought, or the "read it or google it" approach to learning. They are highly sensitive to the question of whether a particular "wheel" (theory, model, solution) has already been invented--it may be extremely inefficient to reinvent any given wheel, so they prefer to attend to this question early on. INTJs do not generally learn well by rote and are usually the students who want to create a project or an actual useful thing in order to learn how a theory works. INTJs are especially sensitive to the shared-societal-assessment of new ideas, focusing on whether an idea or method is "scientific" or "evidence-based" as a way of attempting to guarantee a positive project outcome. (INTPs are generally less concerned about this aspect.)

INTJs under extreme stress will behave more like poorly-developed ESFPs and can be seen binging on sensory engagements of all kinds, from food to exercise to drugs to shopping to TV. Their problem-solving mode switches heavily and quickly to a personal-values-oriented lens and they wonder why the world is against them.


INTPs on the other hand will tend to use the information on HN as food for internal analysis, interpreting the information as it comes, without as much reliance upon a driving, singular vision. "Let's see what we can learn about this (system, user, comment, etc.)" is enough of a goal in itself. Information is accepted as-is, as long as it can be analyzed. INTPs are intuitive in the broadest sense, open to possibility and driven by a gift for designing original systems and frameworks. The INTJ's "read it or google it" alone will not do it for an INTP. INTPs are driven by own-analysis and are a key wellspring of the NIH-style line of thought. The fact that a wheel was already invented is no deterrent, because who knows--this wheel will be designed for our needs, and will probably be different somehow. When INTPs cannot learn by analysis, they tend to fall back on rote learning and are as such typically very well suited for academia.

INTPs under extreme stress will behave more like poorly-developed ESFJs and can be seen in extreme states of outward emotion like frequent crying and needing to get their feelings out with regard to how much they feel unloved and unappreciated. These INTPs will tend to take a bare-bones approach to life and consider themselves somewhat dumb and simple, if clever. They give more attention to politics and personal standing & influence.

INTJs and INTPs frequently activate a painful psychological process in one another that is known as the "critical child voice." One simple lens through which to view this process is the struggle over "referencing and using others' successful ideas and not wasting time" vs. "doing our own analysis and creating our own custom systems for higher leverage". In tech projects it can be extremely helpful to gain a deep understanding of both styles of thought. On HN, this system can be seen in comments where e.g. an INTP will communicate their own original analysis of something, or an original framework, and an INTJ will reply to put a label on that analysis and explain that someone already invented it or published it. The INTP wonders if the INTJ really considers "knowing about others' ideas" a form of intelligence, while the INTJ wonders how the INTP could be so ignorant as to not know a given reference. In this way the two types can communicate past one another; in business and family life this effectively sets up important (and unnecessary) roadblocks to communication.


Anyway--I'm here on HN to hang out and have fun, and learn new things. Thanks for checking out my profile. My hobbies include psychology research, futurism, ham radio (KM6NHH) and SWL, messing around on my Linux systems, retro computing, art, music, and hiking.