This is something I've noticed as well. I've talked about this with my psychiatrist and she calls this brave, reassured version of ourself the "me-mentor" (jag-mentor in Swedish). Similar to our inner child, this is a core part of our who we are.
The idea, if I understood correctly, is to build this me-mentor more and let it help us feel more safe. Let it support our insecure parts/personas.
Somewhat related, a psychologist I talked to in the 2000s said she really liked the Patronus concept in the Harry Potter books. You imagine an entity that's fueled by your positive memories and emotions, and that protects you from certain anxieties and other stressors.
Things like that seem to be used in at least some schools of psychology.
It reminds me on something my psychologist told me, when trying to find this me-mentor, it can help to take inspiration from someone I find really safe with and trust a lot. Aka someone I have good memories with / of.
I've only managed to get sesonal summer jobs, in 2023 I finished my higer vocational studies as a frontend developer.
The jobmarket is a shitshow here in Sweden now tho, few people are getting hired, companies "can't find" anyone to hire bc they want unicorns and you read about bigger layoffs a few times a month.
All the while our politicians are ruining our welfare..
I'm honestly barely coping. I'm so glad I have my partner (who also struggle to get a job) and two cats.
I'm going to the gym twice a week, bake sometimes, cook daily sleep quite a bit as I'm tired all the time. I'm kind of just trying to stay active and stick to routines.
I've recently started seeing a psychiatrist as well
Hellu! After realizing that me and my partner visualize the 8-bit ANSI colors differently. So I made a visualization with JavaScript, HTML and CSS.
So I through you guys might appreciate it as well!
As someone who has only heard about web scraping but has had no idea about how it works this has been a really interesting read!
Very easy to understand. Thanks!
Whenever someone asks me how I am, I always get a bit confused on what they mean. Do they mean right now? Today? This week/month/year?
I have been working a lot on my mental health for a few years(, especially since I got my autism diagnosis and I actually became able to understand myself). Anyway, one of the big things I've discovered is that this deep, say core feeling of how I am is more important than the shallow feelings that is put on top.
(I baked today so I'm doing a bread reference)
It's a bit like bread. A dense bread (core feeling) will hold the things you do and the feelings you feel, like cuddling in the morning.
A airy bread (shallow feeling) won't hold the things you do and feelings as well, like partying or going on hikes and adventures.
Sure, a big airy bread will hold more than a small one, but the denser breads are closer to your core feelings. You can have an absolute blast, the best time of your life, and still feel empty and sad on the inside whenever you get time to just be.
And what would be a dense bread and airy bread is of course individual, and changes over time.
The idea, if I understood correctly, is to build this me-mentor more and let it help us feel more safe. Let it support our insecure parts/personas.
(I hope my English isn't too bad)