Let's put this another way. Do you want to work for an employer that is understanding and supportive with regards to your responsibilities as a father?
If so, be upfront about the baby and if you get a poor response from your prospective employer, then maybe that employer isn't for you.
Quite honestly I find that companies full of young lads run by young lads is not likely to be that supportive, because quite honestly they haven't got a clue what it is like to have such responsibilities, nor do they care (in general).
You are going to be shattered for the next couple of years, surviving on limited sleep. You are going to be able to work your core hours, but don't expect to work overtime without getting ill, or letting your relationship with your partner and child suffer as a result. Whilst the boys are out drinking after work, you are not going to want to be there too.
Congratulations and enjoy the ride. You're going to have this crazy little being that takes your input and outputs crazy shit for the next few years. Children are great fun!
I agree with this, I have a 7 month old daughter and I am literally running on empty. I pick up colds a lot more often now, but, seeing her smile makes everything worth while. Be upfront about it, you'll want to work for a company that sends you a card with Mothercare vouchers when the time comes, not a company that makes you feel bad for wanting to support your family.
To the OP, your username is interesting given the context!
I'd recommend you get regular blood work done at your GP. It will show where you are deficient in vitamins and minerals. Been there and got the t-shirt! :-)
We made a few mistakes with our first baby. The first was both partners trying to deal with the baby at the same time at night when it woke up. Better is to take turns. Literally setup a second bedroom where you can take turns to disappear and get some sleep. You'll feel much better if you have 2 proper full sleep phases (3 even better). Go to bed early. Staying up until midnight was ok pre-baby, but now it will just kill you.
Accepting that my lifestyle needed to change was the hardest part for me. Lots of things I didn't want to give up. Once I accepted them and worked with the changes, things got much better.
If so, be upfront about the baby and if you get a poor response from your prospective employer, then maybe that employer isn't for you.
Quite honestly I find that companies full of young lads run by young lads is not likely to be that supportive, because quite honestly they haven't got a clue what it is like to have such responsibilities, nor do they care (in general).
You are going to be shattered for the next couple of years, surviving on limited sleep. You are going to be able to work your core hours, but don't expect to work overtime without getting ill, or letting your relationship with your partner and child suffer as a result. Whilst the boys are out drinking after work, you are not going to want to be there too.
Congratulations and enjoy the ride. You're going to have this crazy little being that takes your input and outputs crazy shit for the next few years. Children are great fun!