I'd also pass along, for those in the US, that an "official diagnosis" qualifies your child as having a learning disability, which means that you have a unique opportunity to form an actual team of people at your child's school who will be better equipped to manage your child's particular idiosyncrasies, and who will all make whatever modifications and accommodations are necessary to ensure your child gets the best education they can.
Of course, individual schools may still have a poor array of teachers, but in my experience as a father of a nine year old boy with autism, being a proactive and considerate parent who wants to be part of the school support team goes a long way to making the most of your child's time in school.
My son had made a comment that, taken literally, seemed like a threat to another student. He was, in fact, verbalizing one of the many random thoughts we all have but most of us filter before it becomes spoken aloud. The other child's parent rallied to have my child removed from THE SCHOOL (my kid isn't violent in any way, nor does he show anger physically) but the presence of an IEP [1] protected my son, and the school district administration came to his aid. My role as a member of his IEP team (as opposed to just being an ornery parent) made sure that my son's needs were met, and his behaviors were evaluated in the context of his differently-wired brain.
Be an advocate for your child. Don't be defensive, and don't be a dick. You'll be surprised at how many people sincerely want your child to succeed.
Of course, individual schools may still have a poor array of teachers, but in my experience as a father of a nine year old boy with autism, being a proactive and considerate parent who wants to be part of the school support team goes a long way to making the most of your child's time in school.
My son had made a comment that, taken literally, seemed like a threat to another student. He was, in fact, verbalizing one of the many random thoughts we all have but most of us filter before it becomes spoken aloud. The other child's parent rallied to have my child removed from THE SCHOOL (my kid isn't violent in any way, nor does he show anger physically) but the presence of an IEP [1] protected my son, and the school district administration came to his aid. My role as a member of his IEP team (as opposed to just being an ornery parent) made sure that my son's needs were met, and his behaviors were evaluated in the context of his differently-wired brain.
Be an advocate for your child. Don't be defensive, and don't be a dick. You'll be surprised at how many people sincerely want your child to succeed.
[1] https://www.understood.org/en/school-learning/special-servic...
Edited to add IEP link