1) "...while going over the code a developer at the company asked me if I needed the rules of the game explained to me."
2) "...asking a female candidate if they understand a basic sports rule...comes across as belittling and sexist."
It seems pretty explicit that she found it sexist that they asked if she needed the rules explained. If she finds them sexist for asking her the question (as opposed to not asking), she must think they only asked because she's female. I don't see how it can be read otherwise. However, I don't think this makes the lady an OTT feminist.
A possible workaround would be to provide a cheat-sheet with a rules summary. I think one would be less likely to see or assume sexism if there are hard materials on offer to the interviewee - it implies that the same question and materials are used for a number of candidates, and an interviewer is unlikely to withhold the cheat-sheet just because an interviewee is male.
"She must think they only asked because she's female"
Alternatively, she cannot know whether they only asked because she's female. She has to give them the benefit of the doubt, but it leaves her wondering, because it's something someone with sexist attitudes would be more likely to say. If they had chosen a more neutral topic, or presented the material in a way where it was clear that male and female candidates were treated identically, she wouldn't have been placed in that position. Her point is about how it comes across, not about how it was intended. It's more, "here's how you can avoid accidentally making candidates unsure whether you are sexist" and not "this was a sexist thing that happened".
1) "...while going over the code a developer at the company asked me if I needed the rules of the game explained to me."
2) "...asking a female candidate if they understand a basic sports rule...comes across as belittling and sexist."
It seems pretty explicit that she found it sexist that they asked if she needed the rules explained. If she finds them sexist for asking her the question (as opposed to not asking), she must think they only asked because she's female. I don't see how it can be read otherwise. However, I don't think this makes the lady an OTT feminist.
A possible workaround would be to provide a cheat-sheet with a rules summary. I think one would be less likely to see or assume sexism if there are hard materials on offer to the interviewee - it implies that the same question and materials are used for a number of candidates, and an interviewer is unlikely to withhold the cheat-sheet just because an interviewee is male.