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Entrepreneurs may be rockstars but their partners are saints (medium.com/founderwife)
5 points by dylancollins on Nov 13, 2014 | hide | past | favorite | 2 comments


> You see as the partner of an entrepreneur you never come first. They may tell you, you do. They may even think you do. But, you don’t.

Sorry, but you're as much to blame about this as your partner, if not more.

On this side of the pond, it's not uncommon at all to meet enterpreneurs (and employees, for that matter) who have an actual life. There's no incompatibility between the two.

Just make the limits dead clear:

1. At home on time to help make dinner every day; no work in the evening for as long as you're awake and around.

2. No work on WEs.

3. Periodically take a WE trip off to whereever.

4. Take a week or two off a few times per year.

If he refuses, or if exceptions turn into the rule, just leave him and move on. Life's too short to spend time with a partner whose priorities aren't aligned with yours.


i can fully relate to this even though im the entrepreneur, but I can see the same happening with my wife. Sometimes it feels like living a completely separate life, different schedules. I think it can be managed, although it's hard. You need to set and dedicate personal / family time which you never sacrifice for meetings or work, and try to make each moment together same as it was on the honeymoon. it's damn hard, but otherwise the relationship wont work out, and you end up loosing everything, because when your going downhill emotionally which happens often in the startup life the only person who will support you AND ur company is your wife and no one else.




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