As someone who recently quit a six-figure tech job in SF... 100k/year does not "barely" cover cost of living. When I first got the job, I decided I wanted to live close to where I was working in SOMA, which meant paying quite a bit more in rent, but I never had any illusions that what I was paying for was a necessity of life.
Though I mainly picked it out for the location, it was easy to tell the building was built explicitly to cater to the wealthy (because that's the kind of building that's getting built in SF right now). When I first moved in, I felt everything about the place was conspiring to tell me, "Yup, you're a rich asshole now."
Even with that expense, I still had plenty of money. Even if you feel like you're too good to pack a lunch, and need to eat at a hip restaurant for every single meal, I have no idea where this "barely covering living expenses" is coming from.
Here's what my family's spending looked like over the last 12 months:
$8,824 housing
$1,870 food
$2,965 medical
$8,982 personal and transit
$55,306 savings
$52,761 taxes
$130,708 donations
$261,416 total (income)
For most of this year it was me and my wife, with our first child being born 2/3 of the way through. This is with both of us working; let's imagine instead we had two kids, one $100k income, and one of us stayed home with the kids.
To adjust for there being about twice as many people, let's double the first four categories. And because we're talking about a $100k income let's decrease taxes proportionally down to $20k. Now tax rates are graduated so we would really pay less than that, and kids cost less than adults per person in terms of food and housing, but let's be conservative and stick with this. What do we get?
$17,648 housing
$3,740 food
$5,930 medical
$17,964 personal and transit
$21,753 savings
$20,000 taxes
$10,000 donations
$100,000 total (income)
When an $100k income can support four people with enough left over to donate 10% and save 22% then I feel pretty confident calling it "rich".
(This is Boston, which is not quite as expensive as the bay area, but nearly so.)
I'm friends with a married couple who's got one kid, planning on having more. Husband works in tech, wife doesn't work. Their finances end up looking a lot like mine, except they live in an area of Palo Alto where my rent gets them a decent-sized apartment. (Both I and they are saving for retirement.)
$30k goes to taxes
$30k goes to family housing, unless it's a trailer park
probably about $10k goes/will go eventually to things like soccer, music, other misc kids stuff, unless you decide to punt on after-school development
the remaining $2.5k/month goes to food and clothing for 3 and I guess retirement savings? We also leave out cars, gas, vacations, cellphones, saving for college, etc etc.
There is not a chance to ever buy any housing in this area on that. I also don't see much room for more kids. Sounds like barely covering living expenses.
We live in a world where a lot of people are still living on $2 a day or less. And you consider $10k/year on soccer and music lessons a necessary living expense? Gimmie a break.
Though I mainly picked it out for the location, it was easy to tell the building was built explicitly to cater to the wealthy (because that's the kind of building that's getting built in SF right now). When I first moved in, I felt everything about the place was conspiring to tell me, "Yup, you're a rich asshole now."
Even with that expense, I still had plenty of money. Even if you feel like you're too good to pack a lunch, and need to eat at a hip restaurant for every single meal, I have no idea where this "barely covering living expenses" is coming from.