Her use of the term "rape culture" is a red flag. I've been seeing it used very very broadly, covering "transgressions" as simple as looking admiringly at a woman for her attractive (and willfully emphasized) figure. She might be labeling her short, intimate & dumped relationship with him as "rape" despite nothing forced nor overtly sexual.
Willful misuse of terms to evoke cultural reactions is not uncommon, extremely hard to counter in fairness, and terribly destructive.
"You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means." - The Princess Bride
> Willful misuse of terms to evoke cultural reactions is not uncommon, extremely hard to counter in fairness, and terribly destructive.
Yeah, it's a terribly dishonorable, but still extremely effective tactic.
yvain has some interesting writings about how "rape culture" is nonsense [1] and why "willful misuse of terms" is so damn effective in derailing rational debate [2].
I think that you have a lenient notion of what sexual assault is, and especially that you're inexperienced with feminist thought based on your inappropriate "willfully emphasized" remark (which should correctly be "worn for personal choice and not for the approval of men.")
Willful misuse of terms to evoke cultural reactions is not uncommon, extremely hard to counter in fairness, and terribly destructive.
"You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means." - The Princess Bride