The trouble is that the line between "realism" and "boring stuff nobody cares about" is a thin one that the film-maker has to tread carefully, and this is an exceedingly difficult task, as this line varies from person to person: it is highly subjective. Film is a mass medium, so it is difficult for the film-maker to 'get the balance right' for all (or even just the majority of) the viewers.
Moreover, when you say that "the best porn out there" is characterized by a particular description, you have to remember that this is your own, highly nuanced, subjective view on this. There are other people who probably hold an opinion that is a direct inversion of yours.
Moreover, when you say that "the best porn out there" is characterized by a particular description, you have to remember that this is your own, highly nuanced, subjective view on this. There are other people who probably hold an opinion that is a direct inversion of yours.