Well, not in the offensive sense of "bitch, you better behave or ima smack you", but at least something modern like "honey, when you talk to my employees and act really strange and intimidating around them, it makes things very difficult for me at work".
The wife's behavior seems to be the catalyst for nearly all the drama described here.
In many marriages, there's one spouse who keeps the other in line and then there is the spouse who is kept in line. One does not simply reverse these roles.
That's true, but when that leads to the (hypothetically) more powerful spouse taking on a shadow role at her husband's company, then it can lead to potential abuses, as it may have done in this case.
(Disclaimer: not an insider, wildly speculating, etc)
The wife's behavior seems to be the catalyst for nearly all the drama described here.