Yes I don't understand something and I'm asking for an explanation. If you, or someone else does not understand my actual question, and has nothing more to contribute than "It's hard" then I am not interested in their answers or their condescension and I couldn't give two tosses if you turn around and perceive me as being condescending. It's projection. And I wasn't asking you anyway. But since I'm here, what is the point of YOUR post? I don't need more self awareness, people on hacker news need to stop answering questions they don't understand with bullshit nonsense condescension and getting pissy when the victim of their idiocy gets annoyed by it.
Seriously I will not tolerate this curiosity shaming, the ethic that one should feel embarrassed about asking questions. I do not buy the idea that it is condescending to be dissatisfied with shallow lazy nothing answers. I have no control over you perceiving it that way. It is just a flaw in your background that you should perhaps be more self aware about.
You are being rude to people that you are asking a favor from. Stop blaming everyone else; isolate the common factor. They're not shaming you because of the asking itself.
I am not being rude to people I am asking a favor from. I am being rude to people who have nothing to contribute here other than saying "oh it's too complicated for you to understand. Seriously I have been doing this for 15 years. it's just too hard to explain. You're just like my idiot mother who didn't understand how physics works. LOL". That is bullying. Not being helpful. I don't need favors from them.
No, they are being rude. There was no reason to post that verbal diarrhoea and I'm just not taking it like a doormat, and that bothers you. The common factor is them being dickheads. If you look, there are lots of other thoughtful people answering me (with real actual answers and creativity instead of condescension) that I am rewarding and conversing with appropriately.
The common factor is the culture of curiosity shaming here. And sorry, but quite frankly you and them can just get fucked. I don't care if you think I am being rude. I want to be rude about that. It is internet cancer. Other thoughtful people should be rude about it too. I want to shoo that attitude away from everywhere I can. Not walk on eggs just in case someone might take offense. You have no interest in making me "self aware". You just see a nail sticking up and you want to hammer it down.
I was really hoping you wouldn't pull this into an argument about semantics. Since you did, I'm almost certain this will be my last post.
'smug' was a description of your mannerisms, not your motivation. And 'snapping' is only pointing out that you made your pronouncements based on three sentences. I am making no claim to psychological insight.
I just think you're acting like a petty jerk, and blaming everyone else.
It's adorable the way you tell people to get fucked and use other insults of similar vitriol and then imply that my comments are invalid for using a term like 'petty'.
You have no problem with what I was asking, just the way in which I asked it, and perpetuated this whole thread to press into me that I wasn't abjectly deferential humble and thankful enough to the great overlords of HN for deigning to bother to waste their time on an obviously worthless scumbag like me.
THAT is petty and obnoxious. and it is to that I say, "get fucked." Criticizing superficial aspects about my manner, instead of the content of my question is the very definition of petty.
Seriously I will not tolerate this curiosity shaming, the ethic that one should feel embarrassed about asking questions. I do not buy the idea that it is condescending to be dissatisfied with shallow lazy nothing answers. I have no control over you perceiving it that way. It is just a flaw in your background that you should perhaps be more self aware about.