> - This was just a fun bet between friends… she even knew about this bet.
No, from what you guys have said you didn't tell her about it until after the fact. That's super douchey and retroactive permission doesn't change anything. If you grabbed a girl's butt and she laughed it off as "fun between friends," it doesn't make it ok. You need to ask permission first.
If you think cyberstalking is only bad if you add doxing to it, then you don't understand cyberstalking.
Calm down. The engineers were proving to the sales guy that it's possible to get this kind of information online. They weren't seeking any advantage over the subject at all, directly or indirectly.
Keep in mind that the information that they were looking for could just as easily have been volunteered by the sales guy in other circumstances, so it's not like this information was tightly under her control in the first place. "What's her name? Where does she live?" - these are pretty common questions when discussing romantic liaisons with friends and colleagues.
She knew what was going on, not just after the fact.
I've just re-read the definitions for "stalking", "cyberstalking", and "harassment" and I can assure you none of what we did qualifies given the actual scenario of how things really occurred.
No, from what you guys have said you didn't tell her about it until after the fact. That's super douchey and retroactive permission doesn't change anything. If you grabbed a girl's butt and she laughed it off as "fun between friends," it doesn't make it ok. You need to ask permission first.
If you think cyberstalking is only bad if you add doxing to it, then you don't understand cyberstalking.