> I would argue your friend clearly still cares about his ex if it hurts him to be around her. So maybe learning to forgive and having her back in his life as a friend wouldn't be the worst thing.
That is stretching the English lexicon when it comes to the word "care". Having positive emotions for someone is not the same as having negative emotions for them.
> "forgive and having her back in his life"
I dunno. I feel like a major boundary was violated. A friendship or anything really works on the basis of boundaries not being violated. Sure, sometimes mistakes do happen. However, to forgive requires the other person to be aware that a boundary was violated and be ready to take steps to fix it. I feel like our society is too accepting of the word "sorry" and too easy with using it. Sometimes "sorry" just doesn't cut it.
That is stretching the English lexicon when it comes to the word "care". Having positive emotions for someone is not the same as having negative emotions for them.
> "forgive and having her back in his life"
I dunno. I feel like a major boundary was violated. A friendship or anything really works on the basis of boundaries not being violated. Sure, sometimes mistakes do happen. However, to forgive requires the other person to be aware that a boundary was violated and be ready to take steps to fix it. I feel like our society is too accepting of the word "sorry" and too easy with using it. Sometimes "sorry" just doesn't cut it.