"Real" anti-depressants have been found to cause suicide, and are part of why the suicide rate has been increasing in recent years. There are thousands of articles about this, starting over 10 years ago.
However, it's obvious neither of you are qualified to talk about addiction, so both of you should either provide sources or shut up about it.
Some of these articles talk about the potential suicide risk created by antidepressants:
What causes suicide is that at the point where depression lifts a bit, you suddenly are able to take action, but not necessarily any happier. In fact, did you not that part about "hate" in the OP? That's when people kill themselves. It happens with medication, it happens with CBT, it is an essential inherent risk of depression therapy — the first few months are dangerous.
I mostly caught the part where the guy I replied to was making ridiculous statements about both antidepressants and how there is somehow a "logic" which dictates that illegal substances can't treat depression.
What I said was that it is completely illogical to say that because you think heroin can fight depression and its also addictive and destructive, that therefore real anti-depressants must also be addictive and destructive. You cannot infer the properties of anti-depressants from the properties of a bunch of illegal drugs that you (a lay person) consider to have anti-depressant properties.
Actually, while not really addictive, virtually all anti-depressant/anti-anxiety drugs turned out to be habit forming, to pharma corps dismay and nobodies surprise.
However, it's obvious neither of you are qualified to talk about addiction, so both of you should either provide sources or shut up about it.
Some of these articles talk about the potential suicide risk created by antidepressants:
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/12...
http://www.nytimes.com/2005/02/18/national/18depress.html?_r...
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-peter-breggin/antidepressan...
These articles talk about what we know about antidepressants and their risks:
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/medications_depression.htm
http://www.drugwatch.com/ssri/suicide/
This person rails against the first few articles, but also acknowledges the risks:
http://freethoughtblogs.com/ashleymiller/2013/01/18/antidepr...
Some Google Scholar searches:
https://scholar.google.com/scholar?q=antidepressant+cause+su...