> "23-year-old Gary ... explained to a woman why he took an engineering job at Palantir... $250,000 salary would allow him to help pay off his parents’ mounting medical bills, he explained."
> "that line about the medical debt. His parents don’t have any, nor are they ill."
Area man who builds oppression machinery and who is a liar is sad that other people are turned off by both of those things.
Also, lying to someone to convince them to have sex with you means you don't care about consent. There isn't a bigger turn-off in the world than that.
Back in the late Vietnam (War) days, you might not score with the ladies by talking about your highly-paid job at a munitions company, or making Agent Orange.
And the leaders of those industries really weren't in the same league as many of today's top tech zillionaires, for public perception of being alpha sociopaths.
Nowadays it's not expected that a website loads paywalled content. This one is an exception, I managed to get the full text by entering reading mode and reloading (firefox)
It's entirely reasonable for women (and men) to choose partners they want to be around. It's not about money, or career choices. It's about the fact that being around people who are diametrically opposed to your world view just isn't fun.
The problem is that 'tech bro' types want to date left-leaning, idealistic women rather than the much more suitable career-oriented, right-wing women who share their outlook. It's really hard to date people outside of your world view because they don't find you attractive.
You don't get to have all the money and status of a well-paying tech job, and also date people who don't find money and status attractive.
You're getting downvoted because of the asumption that left-leaning women are not career-oriented.
Everyone has skills & interests (tech, building things, sales, marketing, etc.) and everyone needs to survive (rent, mortage, food, etc.)..so why in the world would you assume that these things are only the domain of the right?
I wouldn't assume that. Left-leaning people want careers and a good quality of life of course, but generally ones that don't come at the cost of breaking down society or killing the planet. When I say 'career-oriented' I mean 'people who put their career first'. Other people want a career, but it's not necessarily what's driving their left decisions.
Tech bros who put their personal gain ahead of everything else (other people, society, privacy, the environment ,etc) need to realise that people who don't think that way won't be attracted to them, so they should look for partners who are. I've worked with plenty of tech bros who want all the money, status, and prospects of founding a unicorn, and who are happy to sacrifice all of society's good parts to get there under the guise of 'disrupting an industry', and yet have no clue why the cute hippy UX designer who goes on environmental protests at the weekend has zero interest in dating them. They think the money and wealth means people will overlook their lack of ethics, or even lack of interest in ethics.
The only people who will are the career-oriented, right wing ones. People are generally attracted to people who are a bit like themselves. It's a cliche, but cliches are usually cliches because we see them a lot.
I don't identify with it, and that's why I'm annoyed at them for perpetuating “person who works in tech == tech bro” even if the body of the article will go on to refute that.
The headline doesn't imply those two groups are the same. And I never had the impression tech bro refers to everyone working in tech, it's more of a personality trait.
Hearing things you didn't ask for is a known risk of posting on a public forum, and probably isn't something you need to point out. Far more interesting and useful would be either a meaningful discussion beyond reiterating your feelings, or some evidence of reflection on your part.
> "that line about the medical debt. His parents don’t have any, nor are they ill."
Area man who builds oppression machinery and who is a liar is sad that other people are turned off by both of those things.
Also, lying to someone to convince them to have sex with you means you don't care about consent. There isn't a bigger turn-off in the world than that.
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