On: Stop trying to engineer your way out of listening to people

[busyant]

it's my son. he's young, bright, but puts up defenses to protect his perceived vulnerabilities. I try to explain to him that exposing your vulnerabilities humanizes you... at least it does to the type of people I admire.

but sometimes being 19 is difficult in that way.

[balamatom → busyant]

It's hard. Just a thought - maybe he will open up more if he feels more safe.