I completely agree with you from a correctness standpoint, ...
> Diluting the distinction between opt-in and opt-out is gaslighting
> That seems like an ungenerous and frankly somewhat hysterical take.
... however, this comment was a reasonable response.
Projective framing demonstrates your own lack of concern for accuracy, clarity or conviviality, that is 180 degrees at odds with the point you are making and the site you are making it on.
I can somehow understand the parent. If you control the language, you control the discourse. This is like the famous "I'm appalled at the negativity here on HN" comment threads when doing product launches etc. Or using euphemisms to avoid calling spade a spade.[0] People are fed up with these tricks, hence these emotional reactions.
> Diluting the distinction between opt-in and opt-out is gaslighting
> That seems like an ungenerous and frankly somewhat hysterical take.
... however, this comment was a reasonable response.
Projective framing demonstrates your own lack of concern for accuracy, clarity or conviviality, that is 180 degrees at odds with the point you are making and the site you are making it on.