Often the family dynamic is that the next-of-kin who have the power to make end-of-life decisions hesitate to cut off care even when they know it is pointless or cruel because they're afraid of being criticized by other family members later. Sometimes this extends to vicious backbiting and cutting off contact. I've seen these issues break extended families apart. It takes a strong and confident person to take responsibility in this situation, and then accept the consequences.
That's true. Grandma initially wanted to get no treatment, and boy did we hear about it - the rest of her family convinced her to go ahead and undergo treatment.
I think this was the correct choice, but I have no idea.
On the one hand, she's feeling much better now, and I'm glad she's around, because I like spending time with her.
On the other hand, the recovery was pretty rough, though thankfully she doesn't really remember the truly bad parts. And she's 90 years old, and has repeatedly stated that she doesn't particularly want to go on living.
On the gripping hand, the doctor's description of letting yourself die of congestive heart failure sounded rather unpleasant, and hopefully instead of undergoing that, she'll pass away in her sleep.
On the hands that I'm running out of, maybe an even worse fate awaits.
