You're reaching the wrong conclusion, probably because of confirmation bias. Certainly this LISTEN/NOTIFY problem does not lead to your conclusion, nor does it support it. After all if you were relying on LISTEN/NOTIFY you could instead rely on logical replication decoding / CDC instead. And heck, you could even have a client connected to the same database that uses logical decoding to pick up events worth NOTIFYing about and then does just that, but without burdening any other transactions.
