Respectfully, both of our diets are totally fine, and I don't need your opinion to let me know that. Any biomarker you might like to use tells us that we're fine; our weight is the only number that is "outside the norm", and while sure it's a measure of overall health it's not the only one or even the best one.
To be clear, being obese is dangerous in the long-term. Your biomarkers being okay now doesn't mean you're good to go. Obesity increases your risk of pretty much everything bad. That doesn't mean you're magically unhealthy, but certainly your risk is greater.
That doesn't mean you need to change anything or that you're weak or whatever people might say. I do tons of unhealthy stuff that are fine for the time being. I drink for one - that's gonna catch up to me.
Also basic biomarkers are not a complete picture of your health. Obesity puts stress on the body in a variety of ways, some of which might not show up until it gets to a threshold point. For example, strain on joints.
