Everything has failure modes. The idea, I think, is to get it out in the open up front, after which it is just the new normal that everyone accepts, rather than drag out discovering implications of the difference again and again as they uncover them.
The shame was my own issue of going from sighted to blind. A disabled person is singularly different than most other folks (although people with major disabilities are ~16% of the population.) The momentary discomfort of being singled out is just the price of admission and better than the alternative of people not understanding out how interacting with us or choosing not to.
