He is an individual. An individual knows one’s needs innately. If an external influencer is convinced they know them better somehow then they will be dealing with a 31 year old child with “internet gaming disorder” in 12 years still trying to figure out what they are doing wrong.
Was it his choice to get into this top ranked program in the first place or is he still being “groomed” for success?
Forcing major life decisions (even dropping an addiction like gaming) robs an individual of agency and will eventually have them give up as what they know they need to do versus what someone else forces them to do are in contradiction.
Guiding his path will only increase cognitive dissonance with his true self and leave him prepared to navigate your generation not his.
I challenge you to say, know, and do less. Give him space to work it out. You may see the easy solution but the easy solution is not going to work for a complex individual.
Was it his choice to get into this top ranked program in the first place or is he still being “groomed” for success?
Forcing major life decisions (even dropping an addiction like gaming) robs an individual of agency and will eventually have them give up as what they know they need to do versus what someone else forces them to do are in contradiction.
Guiding his path will only increase cognitive dissonance with his true self and leave him prepared to navigate your generation not his.
I challenge you to say, know, and do less. Give him space to work it out. You may see the easy solution but the easy solution is not going to work for a complex individual.