I like it how you said "no need to put it in the ad". It's as if you do feel where the problem is, you just choose to ignore it. I guess you have to ignore it, otherwise you will have an existential crisis when you realize you are the bad guy.
Good, bad, they’re the ‘guy with the gun’. No competent manager is going to have an existential crisis over what you think about it.
No good manager is going to abuse it either.
They aren’t fundamentally the bad guy, anymore than you’re fundamentally the good guy. They do have a job to do. Plenty of folks on either side are abusive and shitty.
The manager has the majority of the power though, most of the time. Unless labor is willing and able to walk, of course.
No need to put it in the ad, because it’s literally ‘the deal’. It’s the whole point of the ad!
Do you similarly complain if you get dumped by someone you’re dating because ‘they didn’t put it in the ad’?
They have a job they need someone to do, and they’ll pay money for someone to do it the way they think it needs to be done. If you want their money and think you can do that, you respond.
If you don’t like the deal and how it’s shaping up, you can walk. If they don’t like the deal, they can fire you.
If you think the person who will tell you the truth here is the type of person who always sleeps well at night, then you’re a fool.
The people who always sleep well at night will just tell you the comfortable lie while stabbing you in the back, or other you into being the bad guy and them the good guy no matter what.
The reality is, bad things sometimes happen to good people, and good things happen to bad people. And sometimes people do smart things that don’t work, and dumb things that do.
Sometimes, because it is what needs to happen. Othertimes, just because someone thought it was. Or by chance.
And at the end of the day, someone has to make that call or break that tie, or the world stops.
And as nice as that would be sometimes, it rarely is possible.
Often, the better alternative (long term) for everyone is ripping off the band-aid sooner rather than later. But, sometimes, people won’t let you.
If you’re lucky, they’ll take ownership for their part and do what they can to make sure it’s as clean as possible, eh?
