I believe we (I and others) are suffering from a loneliness epidemic. It's getting increasingly hopeless. The apps are useless for non-chads, standard advice of do more IRL activities to meet people doesn't apply when many techies have very male dominant hobbies.
if you have an SO, what did you do that might help others find theirs?
Be where your prospective SOs are likely to be and do what they're doing. To begin with get used to making friendships with these people; it may develop it may not, but you will be more comfortable with other people and improve your social skills.