Well, it's a silly outlook, just like the title say.
Dating is much simpler: our pretentious minds makes us feel attracted by around 10% of opposite sex figures. If we lower our bar a little (like with alcohol), this goes up to about 30%. Assuming independent probabilities, the likelihood of a match (both him and her liking each other) is at best 0.3 * 0.3, thus about 10%.
My preferred ground of picking up were clubs, there's music, there's alcohol and unlike bars there's dancing so the perfect opportunity to engage in a conversation with the purpose of eventually leading to a date. But armed with the knowledge on probabilities above, I knew it wasn't going to be easy, requiring on average some 10 attempts to get one (in ten) success(es). "Success" defined as collecting a phone number which I can later call to ask her to a date in the city. Which by some reason also had a 50% chance of making it or not to a second date (afterwards the odds of sticking are much higher).
So the most important thing in dating success is persistence. Not the creepy kind, which most men seem to be experts in, if the girl doesn't like you, move on: there's plenty of girls. Statistics eventually run in favor of you.
OKCupid had tons of controls and questions to optimize match making. Then Tinder came along with "swipe left, swipe right" and completely changed the industry.
Unfortunately (through no fault of the author's own) this dovetails with incel doctrine which tends to state that the dating game is unfairly rigged because only the top N% of men (in terms of body, income, whatever) have any chance whatsoever with women.
The absolute redeeming factor in this is the unrelenting drilling down into how to interpret stats. If it weren't for the subject matter it would be a good introduction for statistics education.
Dating is much simpler: our pretentious minds makes us feel attracted by around 10% of opposite sex figures. If we lower our bar a little (like with alcohol), this goes up to about 30%. Assuming independent probabilities, the likelihood of a match (both him and her liking each other) is at best 0.3 * 0.3, thus about 10%.
My preferred ground of picking up were clubs, there's music, there's alcohol and unlike bars there's dancing so the perfect opportunity to engage in a conversation with the purpose of eventually leading to a date. But armed with the knowledge on probabilities above, I knew it wasn't going to be easy, requiring on average some 10 attempts to get one (in ten) success(es). "Success" defined as collecting a phone number which I can later call to ask her to a date in the city. Which by some reason also had a 50% chance of making it or not to a second date (afterwards the odds of sticking are much higher).
So the most important thing in dating success is persistence. Not the creepy kind, which most men seem to be experts in, if the girl doesn't like you, move on: there's plenty of girls. Statistics eventually run in favor of you.