This is anecdotal I guess but I know I'm not alone.. as someone who has been forced to live in more dense housing with each move the older I get.. (grew up in a house,shared walls, more shared walls, and now an apartment with shared walls and people above me). Misery vastly increases with density, at least for me. People are loud, inconsiderate and fucking gross. There's trash and broken shit everywhere, people idle their cars and cause noise pollution from the exhaust reverberating on the buildings or their stereos, no one owns the communal areas so they get trashed because nobody gives a shit. Common areas smell horrible, or are overpoweringly scented with air freshener. Living in dense housing as driven me absolutely mad, and I have more buying power than I've ever enjoyed in my life it's ridiculous so it's not like I'm forced to live in dense housing and poverty. So when I read shit like 'people like people - we WANT to be close to one another' I get triggered as fuck, I'm not sure I know any adult that would prefer to live in a house over an apartment. Also... There's almost zero cultural tolerance, people silo into their cultural bubbles and refuse to integrate.
I agree with every one of your points. I mean to say "people want to be close to one another" as a philosophy along a spectrum. People crave belonging, connection, intimacy, stimulus, novelty. In a grand sense we really do choose to congregate.
That said, yes for sure there's much suck about the filth, obliviousness, and inconsideration of "other people". I like people, but I do not live on top of people. I want the ability to walk or bike to my stimulus. And then retreat back to solitude.
Completely get you! In simple terms, I just think it has to occur silly to people, that 8 billion humans are gonna have their 2 acres of land and that that is somehow _actually_ ideal beyond "I want what I want the way I want it". Quite literally the concept of Civilization is honoring a WE more than an I.
