> I don't understand what causes people to talk in bad faith like that.
Okay I guess I'll take the bait and assume you are legitimately confused and that your original comment was in good faith.
When you say something like
> You sound like you saw the phrase "Right Way Guy", felt it sounded pejorative (it's more gently poking fun at a common thing), and decided it must mean That Type Of Guy I Don't Like.
you might think that no one should get offended by this because you are being objective about your thoughts. But it doesn't matter that you're "just" sharing your thoughts. These thoughts are hurtful to the parent as evidenced by their reactions. They're hurtful because people don't like being wrong nor do they like being told that they're upset. If this isn't clear to you, then you have my deepest condolences because I expect you often unintentionally offend others.
If I may offer unsolicited advice, you can avoid this kinds of unpleasant reactions by mincing your words. I know a few people who speak like you did and they all are so confused when I tell them this because they think readers would be offended that they are padding their message with unnecessary formality and fluff. But without it, their message is often curt.
I see this interaction play out all the time on HN (including my response), so I hope my response is not in vain...
No, I meant that part to be a little mean, and I wouldn't be upset if the other poster had taken offense at that; it's a tradeoff.
I'm offended that they emitted actual word salad at me followed by a random (and actually wildly offensive! or it would be if it made any sense) accusation that was unrelated to anything even close to anything I said.
Okay I guess I'll take the bait and assume you are legitimately confused and that your original comment was in good faith.
When you say something like
> You sound like you saw the phrase "Right Way Guy", felt it sounded pejorative (it's more gently poking fun at a common thing), and decided it must mean That Type Of Guy I Don't Like.
you might think that no one should get offended by this because you are being objective about your thoughts. But it doesn't matter that you're "just" sharing your thoughts. These thoughts are hurtful to the parent as evidenced by their reactions. They're hurtful because people don't like being wrong nor do they like being told that they're upset. If this isn't clear to you, then you have my deepest condolences because I expect you often unintentionally offend others.
If I may offer unsolicited advice, you can avoid this kinds of unpleasant reactions by mincing your words. I know a few people who speak like you did and they all are so confused when I tell them this because they think readers would be offended that they are padding their message with unnecessary formality and fluff. But without it, their message is often curt.
I see this interaction play out all the time on HN (including my response), so I hope my response is not in vain...