If living in a tight knit village, sacrificing your freedoms is the best option you have, then that is what most people choose. If there exists an option for you retain your freedom and have financial independence and physical security, then people tend to choose that
you make it sound like these are opposing incompatible choices. why not choose both?
i'd love to live in a small tight knit community. going to school and getting a good education does not prevent that. and with more options to work from home it is now even more possible than it was in the past.
also, people didn't move because they wanted to gain independence. they are forced to move because they can't find work at home. in europe the majority of people live where they grow up and do not move far from there, unless lack of local jobs forces them to. which is one reason why big cities are popular and growing because jobs are there, and it is more likely that future generations will have jobs there too, so they can stay.
Because they are incompatible choices. You have to live by the rules of the said small tight knit community. since gp said indian, in indian communities you have to marry within the community otherwise you "bring shame" to the community. This coercion doesn't even have to be explicit like that it acts on you in insidious ways .
Its the classic tradeoff between security and freedom.
Marrying within the community is not marrying (near) cousins. Once you are beyond 2nd cousins, you might as well be not related (for disease purposes), and the old Hindu scriptures go even further than that.
Specifically, men and women would not be married within the same village, but within the same community in other villages (which may only be within a radius of 50km, but that is a lot of people).
I grew up poor and moved far away from my family to change it. In the rich land where I now live, most people I’ve met could do a little better by moving to another town but they choose to remain close to their families and their birth community. With that said, they still have to raise their children on their own, because it is culturally inappropriate to ask, accept or (god forbid![^1]) offer help.
[^1]: You want to do what with our kids? What are you? A budding, wanna-be child molester? You never know, the media says they are everywhere. No sir, and you have upset me so much that I’ll write to my local representative to install CSAM surveillance in all the phones.
i would guess quite the opposite. from what i have seen in places that i have been to women are doing most of the work, like selling food at the market while i saw more men hanging around doing nothing. i guess some of the men that did work went elsewhere for the better jobs.
not really. it would still just be the experience of one person in one place. not enough to generalize. someone made a guess, and i countered with a different guess. i am however not ready to go on a deeper exploration here until i have had more opportunities to observe other similar places and spend more time to talk to some of these people to get a better understanding of their situation
> not really. it would still just be the experience of one person in one place
If you provided a location, others could research the labor participation rate among men and women in the area you’re talking about. It would literally be the exact opposite of “the experience of one person”.
I just don't see that realisticly possible. People move a cross the city for a new job, that enough to break the family visit. Remote work is nowhere near guaranteed.
>people didn't move because they wanted to gain independence.
They do, when they don't fit into the community they grew up with.
> you make it sound like these are opposing incompatible choices. why not choose both? i'd love to live in a small tight knit community. going to school and getting a good education does not prevent that. and with more options to work from home it is now even more possible than it was in the past.
Tight-knit by definition means everyone's up in everyone's business. You would know your neighbour's business intimately, as intimately as they'd know yours (think what you pooped last night as a sense of how intimate). If that strikes you as unnecessary and potentially disgusting, then tight-knit isn't for you. I came from one... and I know for a fact it isn't for me.
you make it sound like these are opposing incompatible choices. why not choose both? i'd love to live in a small tight knit community. going to school and getting a good education does not prevent that. and with more options to work from home it is now even more possible than it was in the past.
also, people didn't move because they wanted to gain independence. they are forced to move because they can't find work at home. in europe the majority of people live where they grow up and do not move far from there, unless lack of local jobs forces them to. which is one reason why big cities are popular and growing because jobs are there, and it is more likely that future generations will have jobs there too, so they can stay.