This is an interesting question - why can't it be both? I always knew my parents would help me when I needed it regardless of the situation I'd got myself into. But I also knew they wouldn't want me spending Saturday in the woods getting drunk and so that was kept secret from them. I always felt like the kids that didn't have those rebellious experiences during high school (drink, drugs, sketchy situations) went totally off the rails at college because they were so unprepared for it.
