The idea in masonry is that by having something of your own and doing something for yourself, you have something you can actually share and replenish. It's also an art you practice and you grow as a man as a result, so it's not like the binge drinking to make up for lost time I see married people get up to when they are apart. This idea of escaping family is from people who have internalized narratives from sitcoms and are playing a role instead of engaging life directly. You're a man, you do things because you like them, and there is no explanation required. If you can't leave the house for a few hours at night once in a while, you're mismanaging your life and relationships.
