you didn't contradict his point, you added support for it. Your lead is making a choice - pay / company over family / life. There is a cost to chasing TC (total compensation).
It sounded to me that the previous poster's point is that the tradeoff between economic opportunities and moving away from grandparents is less prevalent. My anecdote (and census data in another reply) is how someone chose to stay in an economically strong metro despite the fact that this meant grandparents couldn't live near children. People are still often prioritizing economic opportunities over proximity to family.
I don't deny that this is a choice, I'm contesting whether this tradeoff had diminished outside of WFH situations.
The choice is not so simple as it also involves volatility of future income, for which it very well could be better for your family for you to move to an economically burgeoning place.
In an up or out world, there is a cost to not chasing TC too.
I think you're talking past the folks upstream because they are talking about "tradeoffs" and you are talking about "not so simple."
The point is simply that if you pick up and move every time you can get a raise, you are going to end up far from family and thus have that problem. But not doing that has become a more viable choice lately, especially once you understand the downsides of being far from fam ~ what we're talking about here.
