Actually it always gets me a lot of downvotes but I will keep repeating it because it is the truth. All personal responsibility is being outsourced to the state until we have no autonomy left and it's depressing.
If we change the individualistic culture that makes it necessary for, in the worst case, a single person to care for and parent a child, then yes, sure. But the world many people live in right now makes this very very hard and judging people is not helping.
