> This immersive daydreaming often pulls me out of reality's context.
Rankly speculating-- there's some extremely painful emotion the author is avoiding by opting for daydream over engaging with whatever is going on in reality.
Edit: perhaps not 100% of the daydreams. I mean, sometimes humans really are bored. But it's very likely in some of these contexts, the author has a decent idea of what they want to do in reality and are specifically avoiding it to avoid some painful emotion that goes with whatever potential negative consequence could come from their action.
With this many daydreams that are this disruptive, seems very likely they're protecting the author from something. (Or they protected the child version of the author and continue their "job" of protecting into adulthood where they've become a hindrance.)
" the author has a decent idea of what they want to do in reality and are specifically avoiding it to avoid some painful emotion that goes with whatever potential negative consequence could come from their action."
Food for thought indeed. Any ideas how to break out of that?
The author has already explicitly stated how big a problem this is for them. That's a really good start.
It sounds like the author is making these realizations all after the fact. The next step would be to notice what's happening right before they go into daydream mode. This is difficult and takes a lot of practice/failures. That basically works against a coping mechanism they've apparently had their entire life. So the things they are coping with come into the foreground, and doing that can be scary and extremely disruptive. Therapist recommended for this step.
Finally, there's a way to look for comfy little toy problems to practice making a decision to do something other than the daydreaming. Things that are low risk and high reward. Imagine a vacation where your train departing while another goes the opposite direction, and you suddenly realize your deep desire is to tell the guy in the other train, "Hey, you're not allowed to smoke in there!" Bam-- perfect toy problem. You'll never see them again, and you can spend a bunch of time after that seeing what it felt like to say the thing that daydreaming prevented. But to get there you've got to be aware of the opportunity, and that takes time and practice.
Rankly speculating-- there's some extremely painful emotion the author is avoiding by opting for daydream over engaging with whatever is going on in reality.
Edit: perhaps not 100% of the daydreams. I mean, sometimes humans really are bored. But it's very likely in some of these contexts, the author has a decent idea of what they want to do in reality and are specifically avoiding it to avoid some painful emotion that goes with whatever potential negative consequence could come from their action.
With this many daydreams that are this disruptive, seems very likely they're protecting the author from something. (Or they protected the child version of the author and continue their "job" of protecting into adulthood where they've become a hindrance.)