I mean, is the problem that people aren't _motivated_ enough to find a partner? That seems unlikely given how much you see people complaining about not being able to find a partner online. It seems like people want a partner, but something is getting in the way. I don't think motivation is the issue.
A lot of men who aren't in the top of the ladder presume by default that they're competing with some random other potential boyfriend, or an army of gigachads, etc..
More often, the truth is, you're competing with how happy I am by self when I'm just single. And it's sad how many guys blunder in something as basic as treating me like I'm a person.
