Well, people also used to date casually, and (god forbid) have sex, and even go like this for months on end, knowing each other first, before getting all serious about a relationship and asking "where are we" and "what are we looking for here". And they might not even reach that later stage, and just move on and try again.
Today, it seems that going into it with an agenda from the first day/days doesn't seem unreasonable to you...
Today, it seems that going into it with an agenda from the first day/days doesn't seem unreasonable to you...
And that's unreasonable.