Jazz is an excellent analogy. Been in software dev for 30 years. It's hard to explain to hirers that one can only play jazz well (i.e. know what matters in a software project as you go) after a long time, so trust me :)
I realized at some point I got put in charge of things to shut me up. Someone would ask me why and I would launch into a treatise on all of the confounding factors and cognitive science reasons and and and OMG shut up already. Clearly you care about this more than I do, why don’t you do it?
Don’t put a hyperkinetic person in charge of something thinking that you’ll call their bluff.
I tried to bottle it in this document: https://pcblues.com/assets/pdf/approaching_software_projects...