Every single kid is different. Outside basic survival skills, rules and rewards have different reactions and adoption for each. Each has his/her learning style, interests, and pet peeves. If lucky there won’t be significant health issues to oversee as well. In the end, parents would seek to adapt their style to each kid not so much for equality of treatment (attention, rewards, education, control, etc.) but for minimum fairness in opportunity by overcoming bias or favoritism (which is also difficult and sometimes undetectable by the parents).
There are so many dimensions to raising a kid, that the minimum Olympic hurdle could be: “the kid will be all right, will be able to make enough good choices, and will respect him/herself and treat others with dignity”. To much control you smother the child with no self confidence and afraid, too little control and you may end up with… well something not good in terms of maturity and behavior in society - from super entitled to super exiled.
It’s hard. Just cherish every moment with them, days are long…
There are so many dimensions to raising a kid, that the minimum Olympic hurdle could be: “the kid will be all right, will be able to make enough good choices, and will respect him/herself and treat others with dignity”. To much control you smother the child with no self confidence and afraid, too little control and you may end up with… well something not good in terms of maturity and behavior in society - from super entitled to super exiled.
It’s hard. Just cherish every moment with them, days are long…