> I talk very fast, shortly, and pack my sentences with information
might mean some people find it quite difficult to listen to you? And perhaps "need" to interrupt in order to clarify some of that packed information, or just because the torrent is overwhelming?
I get you, but it's not that. I don't torrent. My bursts are short and in case they would take longer I'd have no problem with stopping as soon as the person signals a need with "wait!.." or "Ok, I get it" or a gesture. I long for dense conversations and so am totally fine with constructive interrupts.
No, those people jam my sentence mid-way and it's awful and turns the convo into a fight for the choir.
> I get you, but it's not that. I don't torrent. My bursts are short…
Are you sure? This may not be as true as you think it is, in my experience.
I have ADHD, so tend to talk fast, excitedly, and pack my sentences full of info. I have found, through experience, that intentionally slowing down and explaining a little more goes a long way toward understanding and productive discourse.
ADHD people, in particular, often see connections where neurotypical people don’t; making those connective leaps explicit is often extremely helpful in that context, but it’s easy to assume that something obvious to you is obvious to someone else, even when it usually isn’t.
Perhaps it's the nature of your bursts that make other feel they need to interrupt, lest they fail to get a word in edgewise: a fire hose of information tends to overwhelm people.
Also, if your audience isn't following you, they may want to interrupt simply to get things back on track. I've seen this happen where devs may be saying things that are technically correct, but the (usually non-devs) just don't follow and start interrupting. Heck, even I feel the need to interrupt devs when they are going on a tangent, even if that tangent is technically correct.
If I had to give one piece of conversational advice in general (not just for you but for anybody), it's to make short pauses on a regular basis, and immediately cede the floor to anybody who begins to interrupt. It will make them feel better that they can get their opinion heard, and you can always "steal" the floor again if necessary.
Some people would see their signalling of understanding difficulty as weakness. Regardless, I suspect interruption almost always indicates that the listener simply isn't gaining value from what I'm saying, for whatever reason.
There are at least two ways to interpret this, and neither of them sound pleasant to me. I say this as someone who enjoys meeting and talking with new people, whether engaging in small talk or more deeper topics.
I’d kind of like to ask one of two things:
a) what do you think about “small talk”?
b) do you have some example in mind where someone recently interrupted your sentence you think is perfectly normal and informative? If you can write a quick script, using as many phrases as possible from the situation you remember, including the topic, I bet you could get a free, informative, constructive critique.
> I talk very fast, shortly, and pack my sentences with information
might mean some people find it quite difficult to listen to you? And perhaps "need" to interrupt in order to clarify some of that packed information, or just because the torrent is overwhelming?