this is exactly the response I expected, and it has been delivered right on time.
you have proven my point: humans are assholes, and see whatever they need to see to justify how they treat others. you have taken 0.5 seconds of time to believe that you have figured out my problem, in it's entirety, and then made that statement in order to feel superior to me by telling me that it's my fault.
do you really, really think that this has not occurred to me? that I have not taken steps for years to address it? I have. for 20 years I have paid for professional help, and nothing in this situation has changed except me.
for some reason, you felt compelled to tell me that you fully understand the situation that I am living in and that I do not understand the situation I am living in. you are a perfect illustration of the problem I am describing.
thanks, I guess. I expected exactly this and you gladly provided it.
Funny, when discussing many situations such as poverty, career opportunities, or physical health issues, negative experiences leading to a pessimistic outlook is usually accepted, and met with acknowledgement of inequalities or systemic issues. Suggesting otherwise is sometimes even taboo.
But attempt to share the same kind of experience-informed outlook on friendship and sociality, and the same empathy is rare. This outlook seems to deeply bother people who presumably have had positive experiences.
The means of reconciling this bothersome viewpoint seems to be either insistence on a supposed “friendship meritocracy” (just do these things and have a happy attitude and you’ll find friends!) or by skipping straight to vitriol. The response is fascinating in its own right, really.
In parent's defense, you are posting on a public forum introducing a position that is likely to create some level of pushback. Note that you use categorical language like:
<< there is no such thing as a "friend."
which could draw an uncharitable take.
I can't say I completely disagree, but there are literally billions humans on this earth. I would like to think at least one token good human exists?
you have proven my point: humans are assholes, and see whatever they need to see to justify how they treat others. you have taken 0.5 seconds of time to believe that you have figured out my problem, in it's entirety, and then made that statement in order to feel superior to me by telling me that it's my fault.
do you really, really think that this has not occurred to me? that I have not taken steps for years to address it? I have. for 20 years I have paid for professional help, and nothing in this situation has changed except me.
for some reason, you felt compelled to tell me that you fully understand the situation that I am living in and that I do not understand the situation I am living in. you are a perfect illustration of the problem I am describing.
thanks, I guess. I expected exactly this and you gladly provided it.