I can see how forgiveness can be weaponized like that but to me forgiveness is only there to benefit the forgiver. Granted, getting good at forgiveness risks you just becoming a door mat. Similarly, Getting good at grace risks you becoming naive and ignorant to the world around you.
How does this dynamic of grace vs forgiveness interact with genuine feelings of guilt?
There are times in life where we (or people around us) fuck up. Genuine remorse occurs and receiving forgiveness can bring closure as it can signal that a relationship with someone is still there.
I think assuming forgiveness is a one-way interaction may be true in some contexts, but not all.
Grace: Getting on with your life and not letting yourself get caught up in someone else’s moral failings. You do you.