Not sure if you’re accusing me of making my story up, I wish I were. In regards to my writing needing editing, it’s a comment on a post on HN - you kinda get what you pay for.
As for your comment about where I stand after reflection, it seems like you might have had unhealthy relationships or little experience. I regret the pain I caused her; you’d have to be pretty calloused not to. But she’s met someone else and is happier and I’ve met someone else and am happier. I don’t think either of us would change the present just to have a different past. You shouldn’t really regret losing someone over a relationship not working out especially if there isn’t a singular moment you can point to (like infidelity or abuse). It’s hard to tell what exacerbated things or what was the straw that broke the camels back hence why I said it probably would have ended anyway.
I regret not playing guitar more in the sense that I wasn’t allocating any of my time to simply enjoying life. Perhaps had I played guitar more, or video games, or had taken up painting I would have been happier and that would have been healthier for both myself and the people around me. It’s an easy thing to regret because the time I spent learning JavaScript frameworks I never ended up using or languages that fell out of vogue (looking at you scala) was largely fruitless in terms of my career anyway.
As for your comment about where I stand after reflection, it seems like you might have had unhealthy relationships or little experience. I regret the pain I caused her; you’d have to be pretty calloused not to. But she’s met someone else and is happier and I’ve met someone else and am happier. I don’t think either of us would change the present just to have a different past. You shouldn’t really regret losing someone over a relationship not working out especially if there isn’t a singular moment you can point to (like infidelity or abuse). It’s hard to tell what exacerbated things or what was the straw that broke the camels back hence why I said it probably would have ended anyway.
I regret not playing guitar more in the sense that I wasn’t allocating any of my time to simply enjoying life. Perhaps had I played guitar more, or video games, or had taken up painting I would have been happier and that would have been healthier for both myself and the people around me. It’s an easy thing to regret because the time I spent learning JavaScript frameworks I never ended up using or languages that fell out of vogue (looking at you scala) was largely fruitless in terms of my career anyway.